Was 2010 your best year yet?

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Was 2010 your best year yet?  Now is a fantastic time to reflect on what's happened for you.  What did you achieve?  What didn't you achieve?  Has it left you wondering what went wrong?  How come you haven't got to where you wanted to be?  Still stuck in that same old rut and daily routine?

So if 2010 was anything less than your best year yet, it wasn't your best year yet was it?

I've just had a fabulous 2010 and yes it's been my best year yet.  If you want to know how I did it then check out my on-line achiever's club where I share my tips for success.  Click here to find out more

You deserve to enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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What's your favourite music?

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This is one of my favourite tracks....




Enjoy,

Noelyne Jones

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Believe in You

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Another beautiful inspirational and soothing video with a powerful message.  Believe in your heart.  'What the mind can conceive and the heart can believe you can achieve'.



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Noelyne Jones

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Listen

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One of the most important skills in life is listening.  Listening to your own inner voice is something that is often forgotten in the busyness of daily life.  Take time out to listen to your own thoughts, you can learn much about your success or lack of success just by listening.  Here's a lovely video to reenforce the importance of listening.



Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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People come into your life for a reason

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It's the season to remember loved ones no longer with us, Christmas cards often bear sad tidings rather than glad so here's a video to help soothe your thoughts.



If one of your friends has walked away from you and you are not sure of the reason it can be upsetting, particularly if your enjoyed their company and you thought you would be friends forever.  It's not alwyas easy to accept that they no longer want to be a part of your life.  You feel rejected and a sense of loss however, you have to accept that they have chosen to walk away.  You no longer need them in your life.  So accept and move on.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Search for meaning in life

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Here is a video of a presentation by Victor Frankl.  A tremendous, brilliant man.



Noelyne Jones

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Overcoming Fear of Interviews

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I'm doing a series of blogs on interview tips for teenagers although they are just as relevant for anyone facing an interview.  One of the main stumbling blocks for success at interview is a fear of interviews.  So I'm going to focus on overcoming fear of interviews.

What is the fear?  Where does it come from?  What triggers it?
This will of course vary from person to person as each person is unique and will handle situations in their own way. And for that reason at this stage I want you to stop comparing yourself to others.  Focus on what it is that you are afraid of and where does it come from.  Is it based on experience?  Or is it other peoples fear that you have taken on board?  If you have never had an interview before how do you know it's time to be afraid?  Get curious about what the fear is telling you.

It probably means that you are not yet ready for the interview and that you still have some research, preparation or practice to do.  You may need to get a personal coach to help you with overcoming your fear of interviews.  Only you can tell what it is that you need.  So take action now well before the interview to put yourself in the best possible state on the actual day.

Some nerves and butterflies in the tummy on the day of the interview are quite normal and you can get a natural remedy such as Rescue Remedy to help steady your nerves.

So the key things with overcoming your fear of interviews is to get curious about the fear and than work out what you need to do to reduce the fear.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Interview Tips for Teenagers

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Interview Tips for Teenagers

How much do you really want to be successful at the interview?  What will it give you?  What does it mean to you?  Is this what you really want to be doing in the next stage of your life?  Or are you following a path that your parents have laid out for you?

This is crucial.  If you are doing something just to please your parents and get their approval it will not work out for you.  Your parents will be happy of course and initially this will be enough to keep you motivated however, long term you will end up feeling unhappy with your life.  And that's another key point.  This is your life not your parents.  They are doing their best for you and if you are not bothered about what you do then by all means go along with their plan.  Better that than no plan at all.

However, if there is something that you really want to do then it's far better to follow your own ideas and goals.  I can feel your fear of doing your own thing because you believe your parents will disapprove.  And they could particularly if it doesn't fit their view of how things should be.

Not sure what you really want to be doing?  Then get yourself a good personal development coach who specialises in career choices.

You only get once chance at life so give yourself the best chance by making great decisions now.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Interview Tips for Teenagers

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My focus in this series of blogs is interview tips for teenagers.  One of the key problems is lack of confidence and self-belief, which is understandable given that you rarely get an interview before you become a teenager.  The lack of confidence is often a fear of the unknown and feeling very self conscious.  There is a heightened sense that someone is going to be looking at you and making a judgement on your performance alone.  You are no longer one of the classroom crowd.  You are on your own with this one.  For some young people this can be a very daunting prospect.  You may have the additional pressure of parents who support you in a way that makes you feel threatened and fearful.

What to do to raise your confidence?

Preparation is key.  The better prepared you are the more confident you will feel.  Give yourself plenty of time prior to the interview to do your preparation and planning.

Practice - There's nothing like the experience of an interview to raise your confidence so a fantastic way to do that in advance is to get some interview practice.  If you know someone who has interviewing skills then ask them to do a mock interview with you.  Alternatively, find a local personal development coach who specialises in interviewing skills for teenagers.

Self-belief - Believe that you can perform well at the interview.  Act as if you are already confident at interviews.  This involves visualisation and imagining yourself performing well at the interview.


These are three of the most important points to raise your confidence before going for your first interview.  Although if you have already had an interview you can still benefit from doing the above.

More tips to follow so watch this space!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Job Interview tips for teenagers

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One of my specialities as a personal development coach is working with teenagers to prepare them for their first interview, be it for a scholarship, university place or job interview. The interview is a very important part of the selection process and will make the difference between success and failure. Your CV or application giving details of your qualifications and experience to date will get you the interview and your performance at the interview will be the deciding factor.

Preparation is key if you want to succeed.  I recommend a Management pocket book on Interviewing skills as a starting point. This little book is easy to read and gives excellent tips to put you in the best possible position to succeed. For example, did you know that interviewers will make up their minds in the first 30 seconds of meeting you as to whether they want you or not. They spend the rest of the interview looking for evidence to back up their first impression. So you need to make a terrific first impression.

In my coaching sessions we work on making a great first impression, raising confidence, questions, responding to questions and what to expect during the interview. I include a mock interview and give feedback. Practice is so important to raise confidence but there's nothing quite like the real thing to really understand your skills with regard to interviewing.

I'll continue with this thread over the coming days,

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Amazing Grace again..

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This is beautiful.



Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Do you love your job?

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Do you wake up every morning and look forward to going to work?  Do you get out of bed full of energy and enthusiasm?  Or do you hate the thought of what might lay ahead of you?  Do you feel miserable at the thought of going into your workplace?  You start to feel stressed jhust by thinkiing about it?  You might even crawl back under the duvet and get someone to call in sick because you just don't feel up to it?

When you love your job life is so much easier.  Trust me I know.  I used to dread going into work until I was given the opportunity to perform a role that I absolutely loved.  From  the moment I started training people in the workplace to learn a new skill I new I had found what I had been searching for.  I started looking forward to each new day with vigour and enthusiasm.  Since then my main purpose in work life has been to help others improve their performance or learn a new task for their job role and twelve years later I still absolutely love helping people to imrpove.

I've just done a coaching session on interviewing skills with my 17 year old stepson who has an interview later this week and I get such a buzz out of sharing my knowledge and watching his confidence grow.  It's amazing.

Do you love what you do?  If not I can show you a way to find out your purpose in life and to create a life of your dreams.  I'm living the life of my dreams and you can too.  Check out information on the Personal Achievers club which will show you a way to achieve what you want in life.  Click here for more information.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Amazing Grace...

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I'm a huge X Factor fan and Amazing Grace is my most favourite song of all time so I just had to link my blog to Rebecca Ferguson's version.  Whenever I hear Amazing Grace it brings a tear to my eye as I remember my Grandmother, it was here favourite song too.



Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Are you struggling with something in your life?

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Do you stuggle with something that you are doing? A daily task that leaves you feeling tired and exhausted?  Something that was supposed to bring joy and happiness but turned out to be a chore?  Does your body ache every morning at the thought of having to do this task?  Did you think it was going to be easier that it actually is?  Did you expect to share the responsibility with the rest of the family only they all seem to have more urgent things to do so it's left to you to do this task?

When you don't really want to do something your mind is set in negative mode.  Your thoughts then affect your physiology and how you are feeling, which in turn affects your performance and the results you get.  When you are in this state even the simplest of tasks becomes a mountain to climb, you take longer and you don't enjoy it.  The downward negative spiral continues, the task gets harder and the results poorer, which re-enforces the fact that you don't really want to be doing this in the first place.

Have you noticed how when you really realy want to do something you feel enthusiastic and full of energy at the thought?  You approach the task positively and get amazing results.  The time flies by and you can't wait until it's time to do it again.

If you have something in your life that you really don't want to do or something that is not adding value to your life then look at your reason for doing it.  Is it something that is essential?  Is it something that doesn't matter and no-one would notice if it stopped? 

If it's essential and something you are not able to stop or share responsibility with then look at your mindset.  How do you feel about the task?  Then choose to feel grateful that you are able to do it.  Choose to enjoy the task.  Remember the reason for doing it.

If it's not essential then consider stopping.  If you choose not to stop then change your mindset, remember what's in it for you and get on with it.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Feeling low in spirit, and a little depressed?

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It's very easy isn't it to feel downhearted, low in spirit and depressed at this time of year.  The pressure of the coming holidays and the financial implications.  Wanting to buy special presents for your family, preparing for the holiday.  Rushing around like headless chickens.  Apparently women lose weight at this time of year and men gain weight.  So why do women rush around trying to please everyone?

What would happen if you didn't do it?  Would anyone notice?  Would anyone care? What drives a woman to do all these things just for one day?


Do let me know your thoughts?

Noelyne Jones

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What do you do to stay happy?

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In Winter when daylight hours are short and the nights long it's often easy to get dispirited and low.  Particularly if the weather is cold, wet, and dreary.  This is a challenge people in the UK have to face every year from November througfh until early March when daylight hours are much longer even if it is often still cold.

So what do you do to stay happy and healthy?  I'd love to find out your tips.

I enjoy getting outdoors as much as possible despite the weather.  Have just been for lovely walk along the river and was fortunate to see heron's, red kites and other birds.  We also saw a fly past in a diamond formation of fighter aircraft.

So what do you enjoy doing to keep your spirits up?  How do you stay happy?

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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A dog is for life

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Now I really understand the meaning of 'A dog is for life nit just for Christmas'. I've been on my own this week which means no help looking after the pup. Totally my responsibility. And I'm wondering what's the reason for having a dog? Are they not supposed to enhance your life and bring joy and companionship, man's best friend and all that.

Well I am totally drained of energy, tired of saying No to correct inappropriate behaviour. My arm is sore from correcting the pulling on the lead and my wells don't want to be nipped any more! Where is the pleasure? My man and his boys were supposed to be the main carers as if was they who really really wanted the dog. I'm guessing that's part if the problem for me in that I don't want to do this.

Ok rant over and I now understand why people abandon dogs. But I'm no quitter, it's a challenge for me to ensure our dog gets the message. So I've sourced a local Dog Training school and will join asap.
Need to go and give my wellies some tlc before the next walk.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jone
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When everything gets too much

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When everything gets too much and it often does in Winter when the days are short, the weather is cold, things don't go smoothly, you ache all over and you are stressed about paying for the festive season. Sound familiar?

You need a change of scenery. Get out and do something different. Go for a walk, meet a friend for coffee, eat a little chocolate, treat yourself to a luxurious bath with candles and a glass of your favourite tipple.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones
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My whole body aches

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My whole body aches this morning. Well at least my knees, hips and lower back and left buttock ache. Ive noticed increased levels of stiffness and aching in my joints ever since the menopause. And over the past few weeks of getting up to attend to the pup my hips and knees are sore constantly. It takes a while to limber up and get going. Slipping on the ice twice whilst attending to the dog has not helped, hence the site left buttock and lower back ache.

Really feeling my age and it's quite depressing isn't it, thinking of your lost youth and suppleness. When you didn't have a care in the world and the world was your oyster. So I shed a few tears of frustration and pity and then pulled myself together. If this us all I have to get upset about then I really font have a problem. Many people are far worse off. So be thankful for all that you have, put a smile on your face and carry on. The putting a smile on your face isn't easy when you feel low but persevere and notice the difference.

Shout out to all young people to make the most of every moment of being young. Don't wait until it's too late.

Enjoy the process if life

Noelyne Jones

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Improving your leadership

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Training a new pup is also helping to improve my leadership skills.  It's pretty much a one style of leadersip rather than choosing which style to use depending on the situation and person.  I'm becoming an expert in cool, calm, assertive direction and what's more it's working.

It's so important with pups to show who is the leader because the moment you turn your back or drop your guard they are doing their best to take control or do something that they don't realise might harm them.  As the leader you are showing them what is good for them and what will harm them.  You are helping them to fit into your family team.  It's also great for the children as they too have to develop leadership skills.  The moment someone shows weakness the pup will spot it and take control.

It's fascinating to watch and learn at the same time.

Enjoying the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Tolerance levels and self worth

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My tolerance levels have reduced recently mainly due to training a new pup.  You have to be very clear as to what is and isn't acceptable and there's no room for leeway or lenience with a pup.  For some strange reason this has flowed over into my behaviour with humans and in particular putting up with inferior service or poor behaviour from others.

It crossed my mind that high levels of tolerance are linked to low self worth.  The less you value yourself the more you are likely to tolerate poor behaviour in others.  When you have high self worth you will not tolerate poor service or inappropriate behaviour towards you.

Think about your own tolerance levels.  What are you tolerating just to keep the peace?  Do you put up with poor behaviour towards you so as not to upset others?  When on the receiving end of poor customer service do you just accept it?  Or do you stand up for yourself?

If you are tolerating things ask yourself for what purpose and at what cost to you?
How much do you value yourself?

All the best,

Noelyne Jones

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Winter has come early too

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Winter has come early to the UK.  It's been 18 years since we had a snowy cold November and as ever it's taken us by surprise.  Schools close, roads are chaos and Cavity Wall Insulation fitters don't turn up.

I was due to have cavity wall insulation fitted in my rental property yesterday however, they were delayed on a previous job due to the weather so couldn't make it to me.  A tad annoying when you plan your diary to accommodate this sort of thing.  Even more frustrating was the fact that I had to phone three times before I got a response as to what was happening.  Customer service zero.  And then they advised that the next time they could call would be 20/12.

There would have been a time when I would have just accepted that however, since the arrival of our pup my tolerance levels for poor service have dropped.  It's weird isn't it that looking after a pup can do that.  Life rarely fails to amaze me.  Anyway several phone calls later the fitters are now planned in for Thursday this week.  Fingers crossed.

On another plus it's such fun going for a walk in the snow with the dog, just as well she's all black.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne

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Christmas has come early to the Jones household

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For the first time ever the Christmas tree has been put up in my house in November.  I am normally the sort of person who does not even think about Christmas until December.  Bah humbug!  However, it's absolutely lovely to hav ethe christmas lights twinkling in the corner of the room.  It's been so cold outside with freezing conditions so the tree is brightening up the gloomy November weather.

I'll let you know if I still feel the same in a few weeks time.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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What a week!

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I was just reflecting on last week and it amazes me how lucky I am and how grateful I am for everything in my life.  I had a brilliant time at the Training Handover event in Birmingham which enables me to deliver training for the Census 2011.  So good to catch up with a few fellow trainers who were part of the  team delivering Diversity training last year.  I also had an excellent time at the hotel making the most of not having to get out of bed to feed and walk a dog.  I just didn't realise how much the past few weeks have takedn out of me.

Time to recharge my batteries and readjust my mental attitude to caring for a pup, or else I'll be aging faster than I would like.  So far I've done pretty well at not looking my age, however, I'm starting to feel weary from the early starts.  There's no respite for the next ten days either as my partner has gone away to convalesce and get his strength back before he returns to work in January after major surgery on his back.

I also started another new training contract last week which will deliver a communications package into care homes locally.  Excellent stuff.

So the boys are with me this week and I feel quite privileged that they opted to stay with me even thought their Dad is away.  Yes quite privileged indeed.  Although I'm not so chuffed at having to go an pick the 17 year old up at 10pm after he finishes work....it's freezing out there and the car will need to be defrosted.  Brrrrr...

A busy week coming up too so I'd better get on a do some planning.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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How wonderful life is

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How wonderful it is to be able to wake up and not have to get out of bed immediately. I had completely forgotten how good it feels just to lie there enjoying the warmth and comfort of the duvet and contemplate the day ahead.

I've not had a lie in for the last 12 weeks since the pup arrived. However, this week I'm attending a training course and it's residential so I'm staying in a hotel and it's got a pool. It's like a mini holiday and I am making the most of it.

Got to go. Breakfast is waiting. Speak later.

Enjoy the process of life

Noelyne Jones

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Life Lessons you won't Learn in School

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A friend just sent me an e-mail with the top eleven points from Bill Gates speech at a High School.

Love him or hate him, he hits the nail on the head with this.

        Bill Gates speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically-correct  teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept sets them up for failure in the real world.

        Rule 1 : Life is not fair - get used to it!

        Rule 2 : The world doesn't care about your
        self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

        Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

        Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss

        Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

        Rule 6 : If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault , so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

        Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
        Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as  MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

        Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that in your own time.

        Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
        Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.



Enjoy the process of life!

Noelyne Jones

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Problems or Challenges?

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Do you have problems in your life? When you think of the problem how do you feel? Does it put you into a negative state or even panic or frustration or maybe depression? Do you start to feel that it's not fair that you have so many problems? The more you feel like this about what you are facing the more it defines your identity. You become the problem. Is that how you really want to live your life? Is that how you really want to be seen by others? If you are constantly complaining about the problems in your life then that's how the people around you will see you, a problem!

In the present moment right now ask yourself 'What is the problem now?'. The answer will be nothing, not in the present moment. Yes you have challenges to face however, in the present moment they don't matter.
So can you choose to view your problems as challenges to overcome? Think of one of your problems and then view it as a challenge, do it now? How do you feel? Do you feel a little apprehensive, maybe excited, determined to overcome the challenge?

How do you want to live your life? With problems? I'll let you decide.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 7 of 7

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Part 7 of the Overcome Life's Challenges series.



Do you listen to life's whisper and act on it? Or do you wait until you hear the scream telling you that what you are doing is not right or you need to take a different path? Get in touch with your feelings and if it feels right go full steam ahead.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 6 of 7

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Part 6 of the series to Overcome Life's Challenges with excellent words of wisdom to help you create succes in your life.



Are you in alignment? Are you doing what you want to do? When you are everything fals into place and life runs smoothly. I do a personal alignment check for members of my Personal Achiever's club. If you would like to join get more information here

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 5 of 7

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Part 5 of the series Overcome Life's Challenges sharing with you words of wisdom and truth about how to live a life successfully.



I like the part about knowing when you have made the right decision and how you feel quiet and peaceful as a result, even is it also makes you sad. I have experienced this when making difficult decisions such as ending a long term relationship. As soon as you make the decision you just know its right and it feels as though a weight has been lifted.

Remember the past has no power over you. Live in the present moment and enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 4 of 7

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Part 3 of the Overcome LIfe's Challenges series with Deepak Chopra and others.



What is your perception of reality? Do you see comfort or discomfort? Joy or Pain?
What is your focus in life? That's what you get so if you are not getting what you want check out what you are really focusing on? If you keep thinking I don't want....then that's what you are focusing on and that's what will show up!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 3 of 7

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Part 3 of the Overcome Life's Challenges series with Deepak Chopra, Oprah Winfrey and many other influential people.



How do you want to live your life? Do you have problems or challenges? Do your problems create your identity? What impression do people take away after meeting you?
In the present moment ask yourself 'What is the problem now?'

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 2 of 7

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Part 2 of the Overcome Life's Challenges video series from influential speakers such as Deepak Chopra and Anthony Robbins.

Let me know your thoughts.



Do you experience lack in your life? Do you look to another person or person's to make you feel complete? Instead of blaming the other person for your own lack, look inward at yourself. How do you view yourself? Do you allow your own light to shine?

How much do you complain about what's happening or not happening in your life? Complaining about such things means you are in denial about your life. You are not living in the present moment and that's all there is. Are you in denial? The present moment is life itself there is nothing else. Stop wishing things were different and enjoy what you have. That way you stand a better chance of eventually getting all those other things you want.

Enjoy the process of life and make sure you overcome life's challenges, 
'Let there be light'

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 1 of 7

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Hi I just found this series of videos to overcome life's challenges and thought it was very relevant to this blog as it's all about overcoming life's challlenges.  I'd be interested to know your thoughts so please feel free to comment.



Part 2 of Overcome Life's Challenges tomorrow.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Unexpected challenges

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How do you respond to unexpected challenges?  Do you go straight into panic zone and rush around as though this is the worst thing possible that could happen?  Do you get angry and start blaming others for the problem?  Or do you calmly figure out what caused the problem and then look for a solution?

There's no doubt that people respond to what happens in very different ways and a lot depends on your emotional development and your experiences in life.  Let me give you an example.  A family member gets into the shower only to find there's no hot water.  A bit of a shock when you are expecting hot water to come out like it always does.  Reaction from family member (A) : Is the hot water on? Have you turned it off?
Second family member (B) checks the airing cupboard and yes the hot water is on.
A:  Did you get the 5 star insurance?  
B:  No.
A: (Angrily), Well if you had of done we could have called them out straight away.  Goes off in a huff.
B - Thinks for a moment and wonders if the new water meter fitted earlier in the day has caused a problem in the water supply.  Phones the water company who believe there could be low water pressure or an air lock in the system and suggest a couple of solutions.  B tries these to no avail and arranges for a water technician to call out free of charge as the problem has been caused by the work carried out earlier.

Two different approaches to solving an unexpected problem.  How do you respond to unexpected challenges?  Do you get annoyed particularly if it stops you from doing what you had planned?  Or do you look for the hidden opportunity to do something different?  Maybe the challenge has been sent for a reason.  Many people were saved from death during the twin towers attack, due to unexpected challenges and situations which meant they were delayed getting to work that day and so were not in the building when the planes hit.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Being called Mummy

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For the first time in my life I am being called Mummy.  And all because of a little Lab Collie Cross pup called Ellie.  This is so strange as I had given up hope that I would ever hear that word in reference to me.  If you know me well then you will know that for many years I tried to conceive.  Unfortunately despite modern technology this was not to be.


I also understand the reason why so many women get a pet particularly when they are having difficulty conceiving.  It gives you a focus for your love and attention.  It fulfills the built in desire to care and nurture for a living being who is dependant on you for food, warmth and shelter.  I have been nursing my partner back to full health after his operation and when the pup arrived the majority of my time in the first three weeks has been spent caring and tending to the needs of the pup.

Strangely enough my partner is starting to make noises such as you don't hug and cuddle me.  We need to be doing this to stay close.  So this morning after walking, feeding and spending time with Ellie, I had a shower and got back into bed for a cuddle.  His back operation doesn't allow anything more!


A pup is alot of hard work in the beginning however, I am sure it will be all worth it in the end.  Once she has stopped the chewing and manic chasing around like a pup does stage, I am sure that we will have a wonderful addition to the family.  I can hardly wait to talk her out for a proper walk in the park and woods.  Getting very tired of walking around the garden.  She had her final vaccination yesterday.  I'm trusting that a long walk in the coutryside will tire her out.


I wonder if I'll get a mother's day card next year?  It's the one day that really upsets a woman who wanted to be a Mum but couldn't.


Enjoy the process of life,


Noelyne Jones

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Ellie the pup

Getting into a routine

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It's all about routine with a new pup.  Dogs like routine just as much as humans.  My routine has been totally disrupted as a result of the arrival of the new pup and as you know I was resistant to this change at first which was making matters worse for myself, the family and of course Ellie the pup.  Now that I have accepted the situation we, the pup and I and getting into a routine that suits us both.  I'm happier and she is happy too.


I've researched managing pups and am learning, very quickly on what works best.  The house training is going well so long as I am vigilant.  Taking her outside as soon as she has eaten, slept, play or got over excited.  I'm learning to spot the signs of when she needs to elliminate and to get her outside as quickly as possible.  Accidents are still happening but that's to be expected as she is still developing.  It also tends to happen more when other members of the family are with her.  They are learning too and I'm sure they will get tired of mopping up the accidents and will learn fast too.

I'm using a hands off approach to training which suits me very well and she is responding excellently.  I give her lots of praise when she does what I want and then walk away or ignore her if she doesn't behave.  I'm also using a clicker which gives a consistent sound when she does well, rather than relying on my voice which can change.

I'm feeling a change in myself and I'm also seeing changes in behaviour with my partner's two teenagers, as they learn to communicate effectively with a pup.

I'm really enjoying the whole experience however, just need to watch that I don't over do things, which is one of my weaknesses.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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There's a reason for everything

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If you have been following me and reading my blog over the past few days you will know that I am learning to handle an addition to the family in the form of a nine week old pup.  You will also know that I didn't expect to be doing the caring and house training and other training.  I though that my partner and the boys would be doing that.

Now that I have accepted my role I am finding that the experience is very enjoyable and I am also learning new things about myself.  I got angry and frustrated initially when the pup wouldn't do what I wanted.  I have rarely been abgry in my life and in fact find it difficult to get in touch with that emotion no matter what has happened.  However, a seven week old pup brough that out in me and of course when you are dealing with a pup you have to learn to control that emotion otherwise it can escalate the unacceptable behaviour.

I'm reading and researching all about communicating with a pup and it's amazing to se how quickly she progresses.  I even went to a puppy party on Monday at the local vets clinic where they do a little socialisation and training.  The other pups were older than Ellie so were a little more under control.  Now that I am reassured and have a few new tips I am much more confident when communicating with the pup.  When I am confident and calm then so is the pup.  I know what to do once she starts to misbehave and how to stop her from continuing the poor behaviour without shouting, getting angry or touching her.

What I have noticed though is that having got in touch with the anger emotion I am no longer so tolerant of other people's behaviour.  For example, I bought a red berry muffin from the fresh bakery of the supermarket only to find that it was frozen in the middle and so could not eat it.  My normal reaction would have been to let it defrost and forget all about it.  However, I was so angry and disappointed at not being able to eat it staright awayI decided to write to the company.  This resulted in an apology, a reassurance that the branch manager had been contacted and an additional 1000 points on my card.

There have been other minor incidents that would not have affected me however, now I am much more aware of taking action when things are not to the standard that I expect.  It's not just about me because as I take action and get things changed then it stops other people from receiving poor customer service.

So there's a reason fro everything and I am not only learning to communicate with an animal I am also learning about myself and improving my own behaviour.

Fantastic!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Getting back into a routine

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For the last two weeks since the new pup arrived my normal daily routine has been totaly disrupted.  Who would have thought that something so small could create such havoc?  Although I now understand the reason for my mother's comment 'Are you sure about this?  Do you realise what you are taking on?'

Well I thought I had prepared but not enough.  So Yes Mum you were right!  Although in fairness we thought that my partner was going to be able to be much more involved in the daily caring for the new arrival.  As it transpires it's best if he keeps away from her altogether as the urge to bend down to her to discipline and show affection is too much and this has created a few aches and pains in his back.  We really do not want to undo the terrific work that the surgeon has done.  So it's down to little old me.


My lovely routine that keeps me energised and focused and motivated went totally out of the window the moment we brought her home.  I know it will get better as she grows and learns the boundaries that we want.  In fact the third week is starting to feel much better and I am starting to feel human again.  I'm even finding time to brush my teeth!!

Part of the problem for me is that having a pet is not a priority for me.  It's my partner's goal and his younger son also wanted a dog too.  I knew that I would be involved but not quite to the extent that I am experiencing.  She has taken over my life for the past two weeks so much so that my goals and priorities have been forced into second place.  Notice I say forced.  I was naive enough to think that the dog would fit in with my schedule.....however, when she needs to go she needs to go regardless of what business deal I am making.
She is adorable though and a complete darling and well worth the change of routine.   I had no idea it was so wonderful outside in the dark at 6am, with the birds slowly waking up.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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How to improve your patience

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If you want to improve your patience then get a pup.  My levels are being tested to the limit.  I know that impatience is one of my weaknesses.  When I take on a task I am keen to get it completed as quickly as possible to the highest possible quality too.  Training a pup to behave and fit into our family is like nothing I have ever done before.  It is a totally different style of training.  You have to keeprepeating the same thing over and over again until they understand what it is that you want.

We want the pup to fit into our family and you can see that the pup wants to fit in too.  She follows me everywhere and wants my attention most of the time.  We have a pretty strong connection going on.  The thing that is really really challenging my patience is the 'peeing' in the house.  We go for a walk around the garden and she does her business.  We come back in and she promptly pee's on the floor again.  It really is testing me and pushing me to my limits.

So I keep telling myself that it will be worth it in the end and continue the routine of calmy and assertively saying 'No' and putting her outside the moment she does it, that's if I catch her of course!  How come we have trained her to sit and come so easily yet peeing in the house.....

Still enjoying the process of life!

Noelyne Jones

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Total Disruption

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We thought we had done what we needed in preparation for the arrival of the new pup, so that there would be minimal disruption.  We bought all the essentials and prepared an area of the house for her cage and bed so that she had a place of her own.  It soon became evident that the conservatory was not the ideal place due to the whimpering at night and the fact that this could be heard by the neighbours.  So we moved the cage into the kitchen and for the next three nights her bed was moved up to the bedroom so that I could soothe her as necessary and also get some sleep myself.



By the fourth night we moved her back downstairs and since then she has slept through the night.  I am very thankful that she has settled in so well.  However, as she is settling in she is becoming more daring and is now chewing anything and everything.  I've taped down wires, protected the edges of my wooden cabinets and removed the rug from the conservatory.  The original aim was to have her in the conservatory only until she is old enough to live outside in a kennel.  I was doing my best to keep her in the conservatory and then realised that my partner had already allowed her into the kitchen.  So now I've taped everything in the Kitchen and Dining room too.  She will not be allowed anywhere else in the house!



Still enjoying the process of life!
 
Noelyne Jones

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Have I taken on too much?

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I have transformed my life over the past few months from travelling businesswoman to stay at home stepmum and now mum to an 8 week old pup. My partner is still incapacitated due to his back operation and I'm barely keeping my head above water running around caring for the family.

When we discussed adding a puppy to our family I thought it was a terrific idea. The pup was to be my partners dog and part of the family. I knew that for the first few weeks I would be taking care of her as my partner has to be careful with bending and lifting anything. By the end of the first week I was totally stressed out and out of control and all because of a small bundle of very lively fur. I had absolutely no idea how exhausting getting up to feed and walk a pup would be and then keep her entertained throughout the day. Including watching for accidents. Thank heavens we have a cage to put her in occasionally.

I nearly lost my rag the other day when she yet again went straight to the stones on the garden to chew them. I was getting tired of constantly saying No to her in an effort to educate her. I had no idea how demanding it would be. I also didn't really expect to be doing all this educating of a pup myself. I thought it would be my partner. However, it soon became evident that he is not up to being with her due to the temptation to bend down to stroke and discipline, which pulls his back too much and was in danger of undoing the good that the surgeon has done.

I had been resistant to taking on yet another task and I was struggling with it and of course this was coming out in my body language and creating problems with the pup. I realised that it was actually my role and responsibility to train her. This helped me to switch my mindset and work out how I could fit her into my daily routine or rather fit my routine around her!

The last two days have been much easier. It's all about acceptance and responsibility.

Enjoying the process of life,

Noelyne Jones
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Top 10 Energy Boosters

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Some basic energy boosters to get into the habit of doing daily.



Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Poor Health Low Energy

A Message from Noelyne...


Do you wish you had more energy?  Do you have a health condition that you believe stops you from having more energy? Do you feel sorry for yourself as a result?  What if you believed that you could have more energy despite having a health condition?


Don't underestimate the power of the mind to overcome problems including poor health and low energy.  Don't believe me?  You think I'm a bit crazy and talking nonsense?  Give it a go and see what happens.  What have you got to lose?  What if it works and just by believing that you can improve your health and have more energy it actually happens?

Remeber the famous quote by Napolean Hill 'What the mind can conceive and the heart can believe, you can achieve'

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Is it time for you to change?

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Do you pick up on the signals from the Universe telling you it's time to change?  Or do you sit there and complain and moan about how awful life is and how terrible it is that this and that has happened?  Do you react positively to change?  Or are you someone who sees the worst in every situation?  Maybe it's time for you to change your thinking?

Watch the video and have a re-think of your situation.




Enjoy the process of life! Sometimes things happen that we think we don't want and they are not good. Next time that happens look for the opportunity. In every problem there is an opportunity.

Noelyne Jones

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No Time for Myself

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I here this so often from women who are running around ragged trying to care for everyone else except themselves.  When you say you have no time for yourself, you are putting everyone else first.  Basically you value other people more than you do your self.


Whilst running a workshop on getting successful I explained to participants the way I organise my week on a Sunday with all the tasks and things I want to do, meetings I need to attend etc etc.  On a daily basis I make a list of things to do and then grade them A - Must do, B - Need to do but don't have to do today, C - Can be put off until another time.  I then focus on the A's and if I finish those I'll move to the B's.  That way I make sure the essentials get done.

One of the particpants then came back with a 'That's all very well however, I never have time to relax and meditate etc.'  My response is that it depends on how much you value yourself and doing things for yourself.  For me exercising and meditation is an A task every day.  That's because I know when I don't do those things the other tasks suffer anyway as I am not as productive.

Do you know what things you need to do to make sure you reach your full potential every day?  Do you include those activities in your daily list of things to do?  Do you value yourself?


Enjoy the process of life,


Noelyne Jones

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Don't Allow Other People to Upset You

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When you are very busy with many things on the go, places to be, people to see, things to do you tend to live your life in a highly charged emotional state.  It can feel exciting, challenging and a little scary all at the same time.  It also means that the slightest thing can knock you off track.  Something that normally would not have any impact and you would take in your stride.  However, when you get into a highly emotionally charged state through taking on many activities it's easy to allow the small stuff to affect you.


Let me explain by giving you an example.  Life has been pretty hectic for me over the past few months and even though at times I have wished that certain things had not happened i.e. my rental house being trashed, I have loved sorting all the problems and taking action.  I've been living in the fast lane of life and it's exhilarating.  The other day my mother phoned to check that it was still OK for her to visit this week.  In the next sentence she said by the way I've sent you a birthday card however, I've not put a cheque in it as I've been spending a lot.  I'll have to get you something at Christmas.  Now she's not sent birthday gifts in the past and I've not been bothered.  This time I felt quite upset and disappointed and nearly rang her back to say don't bother coming to visit.  Toys out of pram!  It was a rather large and significant birthday after all.  It played on my mind for a number of hours after the telephone conversation. 


Anyway I pulled myself together and brushed it off.  I'm lucky to have a Mum who can visit and she has been very good to me. I eventually went to sleep and forgot all about it.


I had a fantastic birthday with all the trimmings - Flowers, chocolates, Champagne and a balloow ride planned for next year in America.  However, I could have allowed my mother's words to ruin what turned out to be a fantastic day.  It really is not worth allowing other people's behaviour, words, action to upset your day.


Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Starting Over without Him 10, Letting Go

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Letting go of a relationship that is over is one of the hardest things to do when starting over without him.  You keep thinking of all the good times and wish you could have those back.  The sense of loss can almost be too much and you think that you will never be happy again.  You don't want to let go for fear of never finding any happiness in a relationship again.  In fact the thought of starting a new relationship may make you feel quite sick and want to run for the duvet covers.  So not letting go is a way of keeping the dream and hope alive.  It's a way of avoiding acceptance of the situation and of not starting over without him.  If this is where you are right now then take a look at the words on the video and listen to the song lyrics.  Be warned you may need a box of tissues.




I noticed one response 'drowning yourself in tears is a waste of time'. And that may be the case for some people. You can get to a point where you feel you have cried enough and that you never want to cry again so if you continue to cry it can have a negative effect. However, in my world crying is a great way of letting go of the emotions that build up inside during and after a breakdown of a relationship. So go ahead and cry and know that it is part of letting go and the healing process. It's an important part of starting over without him.

All the best,

Noelyne Jones

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Learning from Experience

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There is no substitute for experience when it comes to learning and development.  That's in my opinion of course.  In the training room Kolb's experiential learning cycle is often referred to when helping students understand how they learn and encouraging people to reflect on experiences so that you learn from them.  This is particularly useful for bad, unwanted or unplanned experiences as you can turn a negative into a positive, work out what you would do differently so that you can act or behave differently the next time if faced with a similar situation.

The choices that I have made this year have given me even more opportunities to learn from experience.  Thankfully there have been more planned and wanted experiences than the unplanned.

Thank you for dropping by and do let me know if there is a particular topic or issue that you would like to see covered here.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Motivation and Change video

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Another inspirational video for you.

How will you be the change you wish to see today?
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne Jones
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Peace of Mind

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The last few days since my partner came out of hospital have been challenging, which has been quite a surprise to me.  It's all about change and disruption to normal routines and of course seeing someone you love in considerable pain.  And for some reason I have not been handling things as well as I could.  And it's starting to show in my behaviour in that I felt irritable going to bed.  I know the theory yet the reality and experience can sometimes get the better of you....if you allow it to.  Do you find that happens to you?  You know that you should be feel grateful and happy and calm yet you are disrupted and it's a struggle to overcome the irritability and stop the tension from growing inside.  You know that you have chosen to do this and you wouldn't really have it any other way yet you feel tense and tired and out of sorts?


So I grabbed 10 mins before breakfast to sit in the conservatory and do a little meditation.  I've got out of the habit of doing this over the past few months by allowing other things to take priority.  During my meditation I identified a couple of things that are probably the cause of the problem.  Thankfully they are both short term situations and I know they will change although I'm not sure when.  Lets hope sooner rather than later.

On the radio they were talking about peace of mind and that describes exactly what I don't have right now.  I know this because I did have it and this isn't it.  Do you know what it feels like to have complete peace of mind?

What can you do if you don't have peace of mind?  Change something.  Either yourself or the problem.  The fact that you are aware that you don't have peace of mind is the first step, so well done.  Now you can take responsibility to get peace of mind.  Imagine what it will feel like when you do have it.  What will be happening?  What will you be doing and saying?

What's stopping you from having peace of mind now?  Identify the cause of the problem then look for a solution and take action.  If it's a short term situation that's causing the lack of peace of mind, you can choose to accept the situation knowing that it will get better.  In the meantime manage your own peace of mind through meditation or whatever you do to help you feel calm and relaxed.  Here's a few additional suggestions:

• go for a walk, go for a swim, yoga, pilates, breathing exercises
• affirmations or positive self talk
• have a cup of tea, glass of wine and put your feet up
• have a massage
• go shopping
• spend at least 10 minutes a day alone, turn the radio and TV off and just be.

Enjoy finding your peace of mind,

Noelyne Jones



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