Happy New Year!

Wishing you a very Happy and tremendously abundant 2010. What do you wish for yourself?

Make a list now of everything that you would like to achieve during 2010 and for the rest of your life. This helps you to focus on what you want and raises your energy levels so that you increase your chances of having the life that you want rather than what you don't want! Just allow the pen to flow as you capture all your hopes and aspirations. A new car, change of job, holidays, better health, better relationships...whatever it is that you want. Have fun with this and keep going until you get to 97 things.

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Follow me this year as I share my hints and tips so that you too can have a tremedously happy and abundant 2010.

Lets rock and roll,

Noelyne

A quick way to review 2009 and kickstart 2010!

My mentor has just done this with me, and I thought it would be good for you to do it for yourself as well.

It goes like this; On a scale of 1 to 10

Say hello at a level 6.
Then at a level 8.
Then at a level 10.

Do you see that level 10 - that is how you should show up to life.

What are the ratings of how you are living right now?

Energy -

Relationship -

Mindset -

Health -

Spiritual -

Once you have done that, note which needs attention, and start to bring each of those up, especially the energy and mindset.

They have a tendency to shift the others up as well.

Then ask yourself - what level are you going to play the next phase of your life.

Then increase it if it's not a 10.

How do you win at life?

By playing at a level 10.

Then decide what level you are going to play the game of life - and I do mean game.

Do this exercise.
Then print the results for yourself and keep improving.

Your life will improve to the degree you play at a 10

It’s also an opportunity for me to wish you a wonderful Christmas and a very happy and prosperous 2010.

Noelyne

How to overcome the post Christmas blues...

Hello All,

The build up to Christmas is one of my favourite times of year. There's an expectation in the air, the promise of something magical about to happen. Children excitedly writing their letters to Santa and loving every minute of visiting Santa in his grotto hoping that they will receive their special gift. This year in the UK was even more spectacular due to the heavy snow falls, making for a white Christmas in most parts. The walk on Christmas morning was straight off a Christmas card snowy scene, the red breasted robin hopping alongside hoping that maybe you had a crumb or two, the blackbirds foraging for worms in the leaves on the ground.

It's a hectic time of year with visits to friends and family to fit in. And when you get the house back to yourself post Boxing day there's an emptiness and a slump. You're probably exhausted from too much food, chocolate and alcohol and maybe even a little depressed. Is that it? New Year doesn't hold the same attraction as it did when you were 18 so nothing to look forward too. Haven't booked the Summer holiday yet and dreading the thought of going back to work. Sound familiar?

Now is definitely the time of year to go easy on yourself. Enjoy that lie in, have a light breakfast and then go out for a walk in the morning. Stop for a coffee or look forward to a freshly brewed one at home. If you feel like having a sleep in the afternoon, do it! Watch DVD's, read a book or two and go easy on the alcohol to allow your system to recover. Take some natural supplements to boost your intake of vitamins and boost energy levels. Most importantly relax and enjoy the break. Allow your mind to rest and stop worrying about what might or might not happen. Just enjoy the moment.

When you feel ready you can start to plan your year ahead, but only when you're ready, don't push yourself.

Make sure you are fully recharged before New Year Eve so that you go into 2010 in great shape.

All the best,

Noelyne

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How grateful are you?

If you constantly moan about what's wrong in your life the chances are that is what you continue to get in your life. What you put your attention on has a habit of turning up. You will not get what you want by focusing on it's opposite.

So stop moaning and make a list of all the things that you are grateful for in your life. Adopt and attitude of gratitude and watch how things start to change.

Have fun being grateful, it's your choice and far more enjoyable than complaining about what's not right yet.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

How often do you feel impatient?

What or who do you feel impatient with? Things not happening quickly enough for you? Wishing you had taken action sooner? Frustrated that things aren't working out the way you want?

Impatience is often a sign of resistance to change. What is it that you are resisting? It takes time for the Universe to put in motion the things that you've asked for. Maybe you've taken your time making your mind up and now you want it yesterday. It doesn't work like that. Know what you want and know that it will happen in good time. Be patient, the universe likes people who are grateful for what they have, know what they want and are happy whether they get it or not.

Stop trying to control everything, it's a waste of energy. Focus on what you can do something about.

All the best,

Noelyne

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Boxing Day pick me up!

You've eaten too much, had one too many sherries, the family are getting on your nerves and it's too much trouble to get dressed to take the dog for a walk. In the UK the weather probably isn't helping. I love Christmas! This is what it's all about isn't it?

So many people would love to have the above so stop complaining and enjoy every minute of it. If you really do hate the rituals of Christmas then do something different next year. It's your choice. What would you rather be doing? Visualise what would be happening for you to be truly happy and content. Then make plans and take decision to get you there for next year.

In the meantime accept responsibility for where you are now and make the most of it.

Think about all the things that you love to do and make sure you do at least one of them today.

Happy Boxing Day!

Noelyne

Wishing you the happiest Christmas ever

No matter what your situation make sure you enjoy today. There is only now so make the most of the moment, be happy with who you are and what you are doing. Be kind to the people you are with. Celebrate your journey in life so far. Our future is created right here and now. The thoughts you have now will become your future, so choose good ones.

Peace, joy and happiness to you all,

With love from Noelyne

Overcoming a fear of making the wrong decision

If you are struggling to make a decision then maybe you are not ready to take action. If you are struggling with something then you are probably focusing your attention in the wrong direction. So stop thinking about it for a while and go do something different. When the time is right you will know for sure what it is that you want to do.

Doing nothing in a situation is always an option. Relax, meditate, go do something you enjoy instead.

Have fun, you only get one crack at this life so enjoy it!

Best wishes,

Noelyne

P.S. Merry Christmas Eve.....

Loneliness

The festive season is a time for celebration, parties, fun, expectation, Santa's arrival, gifts, family and friends, holiday and time to recharge. It can also make you feel incredibly lonely particularly if your lifestyle is such that you live alone, your friends are married or in relationships, you don't have children or family close by. You imagine that everyone else is out there enjoying themselves and that you are alone, despite being surrounded by people.

To overcome loneliness takes courage. It can be quite debilitating when you get into a downward spiral of negative thoughts and start to believe that no one wants to be with you. Loneliness means that you need to connect with other people. So pick up the phone and call a friend. Go out for a walk and say 'Good Morning' to people you meet. Volunteer for a local charity. It's a great way to make new friends and make a contribution to the world.

There is always someone out there who would appreciate a connection from you,

Best wishes,

Noelyne

Letting go of a relationship

When you find yourself in a long term relationship and you start to have doubts about whether it is right for you, it can be hard to think about letting go. Part of you may want to leave and move on, part of you may be fearful of losing what you have and want to stay. Perhaps you fear not finding someone else.

It's important to understand that you do not need the other person. It is your choice whether you stay or go. Likewise it is the other persons choice to stay in the relationship or not. If things are not working out then sometimes it is best to let the other person go, no matter how painful that process might be. It will be best for both people in the long run. If the other person is right for you then they will come back when the time is right.

Know that you can handle whatever happens.

Noelyne

Afraid to let go?

If you found yesterdays exercise of letting go a challenge then take a look at what the reason might be. Who or what are you afraid to let go of? Do you really have any control over it?

The only thing you can control in life is yourself, your own behaviour, decisions, choices etc. After that the outcome or result is often dependant on other people. You can influence other people to make decisions in your favour and to behave towards you in a way that meets your values however, you cannot control another person. It is their decision or choice as to what they do and the way they behave.

If you are afraid to let go what exactly is it that you fear? What does letting go mean to you? When you make decisions based on your values and your goals and take action you will move towards achieve those goals. However, you are unable to control the results so it's important to let go of the outcome.

An example of this would be you control the preparation for an interview and your performance at the interview. Assuming you have done your best you then need to let go of the outcome. It's not your decision. You have done your best to influence the panel however, you might not be the best person for the job. Learn from the experience and move on.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

How to avoid feeling disappointed with what happens

If you want to avoid feeling disappointed with what happens in life then you need to learn to let go of the outcome.  Learning to let go of the outcome is so important. It's amazing what happens when you no longer need whatever it is that you crave or are desperate for. The Universe doesn't like desperate as it puts you in a non-resourceful state and closes you to opportunity. Once you let go the Universe works it's magic.

Give it a go. Admit to yourself that you are desperate for whatever it is that you don't have in your life and then let go of that feeling. It really doesn't matter. Be happy with who and where you are right now. Relax and enjoy the moment. Smile too, it changes your physiology instantly.

I'll cover this subject more tomorrow as I know it's not easy to let go now.

All the best,

Noelyne

Overcoming a Fear of Failure

Why is it that you fear being a failure? Where does that come from? Is it previous experiences? Maybe you've got people around you telling you that you are no good or it won't work out? Do people tell you not to be so stupid? Whose fear exactly are you feeling? Is it your own or other people's limitations?

If you think about it babies and children have no fear of failure? It's a learnt behaviour. At what point do you start to doubt your own ability and feel that you might fail? And anyway what exactly is failure? Who says that whatever you have done is a failure? By whose standards are you judging yourself?

I want you to remove the word failure from your vocabulary. Ok so things may not turn out how you expected and I will be very surprised if they do every time. Look upon it as feedback. Maybe your expectations were too high in the first place and you were setting yourself up to 'fail'. Maybe you needed to do a little more preparation. 'Fail to prepare is to prepare to fail'.

So give yourself a break and go out there and get on with life. Take action and have fun.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

Are you afraid to make mistakes?

I remember a time when I stopped myself from doing things because I was afraid to make a mistake. I needed to practice or be good at whatever it was before I could particpate. Does this sound familiar? It's easier not to do things rather than take action and make a fool of yourself. You stop yourself from joining in for fear of people laughing at you or making fun. The fear of how embarrassing that would feel.

Do you know what? The fear of making a mistake is far worse than actually making a mistake. I am sure you will agree that fear is a thought that creates a sinking horrible unresourceful feeling that stops you in your tracks. The good news is that once you are aware of the thought you can change it! It's that easy.

Think about it.....when did you last make a mistake? What happened? Was it really that bad? What did other people say? Were they bothered? Did they even notice?

In my experiences I have learned most from the mistakes I have made. When things don't turn out how you expected it's the universe giving you feedback and an opportunity to change what you are doing, to learn.

So go ahead and give yourself permission to make loads of mistakes and enjoy the process! Have fun!

All the best,

Noelyne

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Feeling exhausted?

This time of year I find my energy levels are easily drained. My batteries run out quickly and need frequent recharging! I was up at 6am and on the go every moment of the day from driving to the venue, setting up and then delivering training until 4pm, which means I am constantly on display (for want of a word)and a 2 hour drive in the dark, sleet and freezing conditions. It was wonderful to get back to the sanctuary of my home although I knew it would be as much as I could do to have a shower. I flopped on the settee, put my feet up and listened to the radio - Chris Evans with Paul McCartney and George Michael as special guests Oh and The Muppets. Great new record - The Muppets sing Bohemian Rhapsody - Go Animal!

I'm lying there wondering how on earth I can find the energy to make evening meal, wishing the Fish and Chip angel would suddenly appear with crispy Cod and chips. I didn't even have the energy to go out and get some. 30 mins later I am feeling much better and manage to rustle up an awesome (Sarah Kennedy doesn't like that word!) omelette and Jacket Potato. Delicious! Suitably refreshed I set about doing a few things like filling the washing machine and emptying dishwasher...it's a hard life - lol!

A pleasant chat catching up with my brother's news and the evening has been saved. It's amazing (another no word according to Sarah - Hah!)what you can achieve when you listen to your body. Off to get an early night to further recharge those batteries, will read my book a little....sweet dreams.

Until tomorrow,

All the best,

Noelyne
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P.P.S. Bee pollen came in handy again driving home too, as a very good friend said 'You must be buzzing!' LOL

How to overcome loneliness.

Feeling lonely can be one of the most negative and destructive emotions. You feel isolated and that you are the only person in the world who is alone. Every you know seems to have family and friends except you. Loneliness just measn that you need a connection with people.

The solution

• Realise that you can reach out and make connections immediately.
• Identify what kind of connection you need – intimate, friendship, or someone to listen or laugh with.
• Then look for ways of achieving the connection. What are you prepared to do to make it the way you want?


So you can see how your emotions are a very valuable resource.

Noelyne

Overloaded and overwhelmed?

If you feel have ever felt overloaded or overwhelmed – you need to re-evaluate what is important to you in this situation.

The solution
• Prioritise – decide what is the most important thing for you to focus on and make a list in order of priority.

• Each day take action to complete the tasks. Steven Covey ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ gives excellent tips on how to prioritise effectively.

All the best and remember to enjoy the process,

If you're not having fun then stop doing whatever you are doing!

Noelyne

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Feeling inadequate?

Inadequacy means that you don’t presently have a skill necessary for the task at hand. You need more information, understanding, strategies, tools and confidence.

The solution
• Ask yourself ‘Is this really appropriate for you to feel inadequate in this situation?
• If so, then you need to find a way to do something better than before
• Perhaps get some coaching!

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All the best,

Noelyne

Do you ever have feelings of guilt?

Guilt means that you have violated one of your own standards. I talked about rules and standards when dealing with How to Overcome Anger a few days ago. When you do something that breaks your own rules it causes you to choose to feel guilt and/or anger with yourself.

The solution
• Acknowledge that you have violated one of your own standards
• Absolutely commit yourself to making sure this doesn’t happen again

Whatever it is that you have done it is over and in the past, you can't change it and there is absolutely no point in allowing yourself to continue to feel bad about it. You are just continuing to allow whatever you did in the past to affect you now in the present. So get over it and move on.

I can be quite tough!
Noelyne

Overcome your Disappointment

Disappointment means that you are feeling let down or that you are going to miss out on something for ever. A goal you have had is probably not going to happen. Maybe someone has not lived up to your expectations.

This is a much more destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly

The solution
• What can you learn from this situation?
• Set a new goal that is even more inspiring
• Maybe you are judging too soon
• It may not be over and you may just need to be patient

If you are constantly feeling disappointed then you would benefit from some one to one coaching.

Know that you can handle whatever happens.

Noelyne

Feeling frustrated?

Overcome your frustration by recognising that this emotion is telling you that you could be doing better than you currently are. This is another easy one. You are probably nearly where you want to be but something keeps eluding you.

The solution
• Realise that frustration is good as it tells you that you need to change your approach, find another way of learning or achieving your goal. This is great for personal growth.

Remember to enjoy getting curious and overcoming the negative emotions.

All the best,

Noelyne

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Overcome your anger

If you have ever felt angry then you know what effect it can have on your body and the people around you. When you feel Anger I guarantee that a rule or standard that you hold in your life has been violated by someone else.

Every person has their own set of rules based on their upbringing, beliefs, religion, education and life experiences. Where two people do not know each others rules then it can lead to conflict.

The solution
• You could have misinterpreted the situation and perhaps the person does not know about your standards.
• Remember that even if the person did violate one of your standards, your ‘rules’ are not necessarily right.
• Ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this situation?’ How can I communicate my rule so that they don’t do it again?

If you want to know more about overcoming your anger then e-mail me for more infromation.

All the best,

Noelyne

Feeling Hurt?

Another emotion that can be quite debilitating is Hurt. When you feel hurt it normally means that you have an expectation that has not been met. Often other people are involved.

Anthony Robbins in his book ‘Awaken the Giant Within’ states that ‘Hurt often dominates human relationships. Feelings of hurt are usually generated by a sense of loss. You normally feel hurt as a result of having an expectation of someone else that has not been met.’

The solution
• Ask yourself ‘Is this person really trying to hurt me? Maybe they don’t realise the impact of their actions on your life.
• Re-evaluate the situation and ask yourself ‘Am I judging too harshly?’
• A third solution could be to communicate your feeling of loss to the person. For example: - ‘The other day when x-y-z happened, I misinterpreted that to mean that you didn’t care, and I have a sense of loss. Can you clarify for me what really happened?’

I have tried this and it works. I found that the hurt disappears in a matter of moments.

So overcome feeling hurt and take action now. Life is too short to be held back by emotions that may be as a result of a misunderstanding.

Noelyne

How to overcome your fear and anxiety

The next of the emotions that can keep us stuck is Fear, Low level concern, Anxiety, Worry.  I'm not talking about panic attacks, high level fears and phobias.  These fears are much more deep rooted and often as a result of some trauma earlier in your life.  I deal with using Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques. The fear and anxiety I am referring to in this post are those daily worries, niggles or sixth sense telling you that all is not quite right for you.  They can keep you stuck if you allow them to and can grow out of all proportion if you don't act to resolve the feelings.  Luckily these fears, low level concerns and anxiety can be turned into a positive resource and can be easily overcome.  These fears, concerns, worries are telling you that something is going to happen soon that you need to prepare for. 

The solution

• Review what you are feeling fearful about and evaluate what you must do to prepare yourself.
• Figure out what actions you need to take to deal with the situation in the best possible way.

Remember to use your negative emotions and turn them into positives. They are your body's way of alerting you to something you need to do. Don't let the negatives stop you from moving forward. You can overcome them.

Get curious!

Noelyne

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Overcome your emotions - Discomfort

The first of the emotions that can hold us back from taking action is Discomfort. When you feel discomfort it normally means that something is not quite right. Maybe you are not getting the results that you want.

The great thing about this feeling is that it is easy to resolve.

The solution
• Firstly put yourself into a good state. If you are not sure how to do this the following exercise will help. Relax all tension from your body and muscles starting from your toes and work upwards , smile and yawn and have a good stretch.
Now that you are feeling calm move onto the next point.
• Clarify what it is that you do want.
• Refine your actions

Life does not have to be complicated and I do like to keep things simple.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

What do our emotions tell us?

Do you avoid emotions particularly the painful ones? Do you ignore the feelings within you hoping it will all go away? Perhaps you enjoy feeling negative and full of self-pity about what life has done to you? Maybe you are scared to really experience the full range of emotions from utter despair and despondency to the heights of passion and joy?

If you really want to make your life work you must make your emotions work for you. Emotions are our signal to tell us how we are feeling about what’s happening around us. They help us make sense of where we are and the decisions we have made so far and what action we need to take as a result.

So what creates emotions? You do, you are the source. So many people either suppress emotions or drive them out of their life yet emotions are one of life’s precious resources.

Do you wait for certain experiences in order to feel the emotions you desire? What if you could feel any way you choose at any moment in time? Well you can with a little thought and practise.

I want you to recognise what emotion you are feeling, think about what it is telling you so that you are ready to take action to change.

I'll be letting you know what each emotion is telling you over the next few days.

Enjoy getting curious,
Noelyne

Problem solving

'He who asks questions cannot avoid the answers'.  One of the key skills for a coach is questioning.  The questions that I ask my clients make all the difference.  The better the questions the better the result.  Questions change what you are focusing on, they enable you to see the things you have overlooked or deleted and allow you to see other possibilities and resources available to you.

An example of this is the following sequence of questions that are great to overcome a problem:


1.  What is great about this situation?
2. What is missing?
3. What are you willing to do to make it the way you want?
4. What are you not willing to do to make it the way you want?
5.  How can you enjoy the process while you do what is necessary to make it the way you want?


You will be amazed at the difference in how you fel about the problem after going through this sequence.

All the best, 

Noelyne

Day 7 - Stop being so hard on yourself

We are our worst critics. Do you constantly beat yourself up for the way you are? Do you look at others and think if only I could be like that? Perhaps you wish you could change something about yourself or maybe you don't think you will ever be able to achieve what you want? Do you put yourself down and criticise your own performance no matter what others tell you? Then it's time to stop being so hard on yourself. How are these thoughts that you have helping you to get what you want?

For what purpose do you have these thoughts? You choose to think that way about yourself for a reason. What is it? Does it mean that you won't have to take action? Is it an excuse to stay in your comfort zone?
Whatever the reason, and only you can tell, you need to give yourself a break. Go out today and enjoy yourself. Do some of the things you absolutely love to do and celebrate just being you.
Have fun,
Noelyne
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Day 6 - Overcome your fears

Are you are constantly stopping yourself from taking action because of that churning stomach feeling or telling yourself that you can't do it for fear of getting it wrong?
Perhaps you are afraid of what people might say? Or maybe you don't think you will be able to handle the success? Whatever you fear then you need to get my Free Special Report now which will overcome those fears with 7 Vital Secrets. Go get it now and start living again.

All the best,
Noelyne

Day 5 Overcome a lack of energy

Lets focus on those incompletions. They drain you of energy because they are constantly on your mind and you end up feeling down, frustrated, guilty, annoyed at yourself for not completing them. Sound familiar? Here's what to do:

Take a good look at the list…..how important are these things?

What difference would it make if you did complete it?

What difference would it make if you didn’t?

Perhaps you have high standards which if you dropped them a little would mean that some of the items on the list would disappear?

Next cross at least one of the incompletions off your list…do it now! Doesn’t that feel better.

Next prioritise the incompletions into:

Must do (these are the ones that you identified as important and would make a big difference)

Should do (not so important)

Could do

Now commit to completing at least one of these each day!

Three ways to complete anything:

* Complete it!
* Schedule a time to complete it
* Declare it complete

You are well on your way now to overcome anything you want.


All the best,

Noelyne

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Day 4 Overcome a lack of energy

Now is the time to think about what you don't want, what you put up with - what drains you, stops you from having more time and energy.

1. Make a list of all those things you started and have not finished. The incompletions in your life. That list of tasks that you will get round to one day.

2. Make a list of things you are tolerating at home

3. Make a list of things you are tolerating at work

Again don’t hold back. Lets capture it all now once and for all.

What to do with this information will be next in your journey to overcoming your problems and fears,
All the best,
Noelyne