Monday 28 January 2013

How to get what you want

This is a "thought bubble". It is an...
This is a "thought bubble". It is an illustration depicting thought. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
What you focus on expands.  If you focus on what you don't want, guess what shows up? Yes more of what you don't want. The thoughts that you have now create your future.  What do you focus on? Are you thinking about what you don't want?

For example, if you want more money in your life what do you think about? Are you focusing on the lack of money? Your debts? All the unpaid bills?  If so, what you are thinking about will expand. i.e. more debt.

How to turn it around.
Be truly grateful for what you currently have even if you don't have very much.  Be thankful for every penny you have ever received.  Become an excellent money manager, spend less than you earn and save the rest.

Do you lack confidence? What do you think about? The confidence you don't have or how fearful and useless you feel?

How to turn it around
1. Get curious about what you feel when you want to do something but something inside stops you.  What is that feeling?  What is it telling you? Is it a voice saying 'You can't do it, or your not good enough or I don't have what it takes?  If so these are beliefs that you hold about yourself and they will be limiting your success.  Once you are aware of these beliefs you can change them and choose better beliefs.  I am good enough or I can do this or I do whatever it takes.

2. Imagine yourself doing whatever it is that you want to do.
3. Do it!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Saturday 26 January 2013

How to forgive and forget

Asking For Forgiveness
Asking For Forgiveness (Photo credit: hang_in_there)
A Message from Noelyne....
Do you still feel hurt as a result of what someone close has done to you?  Maybe a family member or friend betrayed you?  Do you feel resentment towards someone because they let you down? Every time you think of them you feel hurt, or anger or upset.  In fact you find it difficult to get this person out of your mind and find yourself dwelling on what happened.  You may even feel rejected and unloved.  And what’s worse is that the person concerned seems to be getting on with their lives as if nothing happened.

Does this resonate with you?

It’s not easy to come to terms with a breakdown in a relationship particularly if the other person made the choice to do what they did. The trust that you once had for this person will have gone completely and it’s not easy to learn to trust that person again for fear that they will repeat the behaviour and you will end up feeling hurt again.

The problem with feeling hurt or resentment or anger about the situation is that the only person who is being affected is you.  By re-living the experience day after day you are keeping what happened in the past alive in the present.  You are allowing that negative experience to affect you now.  The thoughts that you have now not only create your current reality they also create your future.  What you focus on expands.  You are creating more negativity in your life.

How to break the pattern

1. You need to want to move on.
2. Write a letter to the person telling them how you feel, write down all the things you would like to say to them, really allow all your emotions and thoughts to flow out onto the paper.  Once the letter is written you can burn it.  You are not going to actually send it to the person.  This works really well for people who have passed away and you didn’t get a chance to speak with them.
3. To be able to move on you need to forgive the person.  Straight away I hear you saying ‘There’s no way I can forgive’.  And if you feel strongly about that then Yes you are absolutely right, you won’t choose to forgive and you will stay stuck where you are.  Forgiveness is that powerful.  Let me explain I am not asking you to actually speak to the person concerned, although you can if you wish.  The first step is to forgive the person in your mind and then out loud.  Says the words and then let go.
4. Repeat the process if necessary.
5. Choose to think positive thoughts about your life.  Start to dream of the life that you want.

It’s time for you to stop allowing that person to continue to influence your life in a negative way.


It's time for you to enjoy the process of life,



Noelyne
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Saturday 19 January 2013

Take action to boost confidence


Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.