How To Control Emotions

Hello,

I've recently been on holiday with my 79 year old Mum, who like most elderly Mum's never want to be a bother or cause any fuss... So why is it so stressful and why so I struggle to control my emotions when I am with her.  I find myself getting annoyed or irritated by her behaviour.  When she tries her best not to make a fuss it actually increases my frustration.  I do my best not to show my feelings as I don't want to upset her and end up feeling sad myself.  It's been the same every time I spend a full week with her.

Thankfully for me I was reading a book by Joyce Meyer called 'Never Give Up'.  I was attracted to this book as I've had a tendency to start things and then not finish them. It was an ideal book for me and I learned a considerable amount about the importance of persistence and continuing to take action when you totally believe in what you are doing.

In one of the chapters it referred to the situation I have just described about how I feel when I am with my Mum.  The advice given is that when you feel a negative emotion towards someone you need to look within yourself for the reason for the emotion.  I cannot start to tell you how powerful this is. It made me break the habit I had got into of blaming my Mum for her behaviour.  Instead I looked at why I was irritated with the way she behaves and I can tell you that I uncovered some of my own fears and beliefs about myself, my own behaviour.  It also made me face up to how I still feel about significant life events that happened when I was a child.  I was quite amazed! I thought I had dealt with all that stuff particularly am I am a personal development expert!  From then on the moment I started to feel a negative emotion towards my Mum I asked myself the question "What's causing this within me?" Not only did that thought stop the negative emotion it freed me up to be happy. 

And of course, it all had an impact on my Mum.  Behaviour breeds behaviour.  My behaviour had changed which affected her. 

To end a long story... we had a very enjoyable holiday!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne

P.S. She wants to go to Crete and Turkey next year now!!

Feeling Low and Sad

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Do you have days when you feel low and sad? It can be triggered by the smallest of things and you just don't understand what causes you to feel that way.  Someone might say something to you in a way that normally you would just brush it off or not even notice.  Then another day it just sparks a downward spiral of unhappiness, feeling low and sad.  Turning up the corners of your mouth to smile is an effort and you just don't want to do it.

There can be a number of reasons for feeling low and sad.  Importantly it's quite normal to feel like this occassionally.  One day of feeling low and sad does not mean that you have depression.  Although many people describe themselves as being depressed when in fact they are just feeling a little low.

What causes you to feel low and sad?
Stress, hormones, lifestyle, relationship problems,tiredness, lack of nutrition, too much alcohol, withdrawal symptoms.  There's many reasons that trigger the feeling.  You are the best judge of what causes the feeling.

You are also the best judge of what to do to overcome feeling low and sad.  Sometimes it's good to just feel the feeling.  Let it happen and know that you will feel better when you are ready.  If there's something bothering you then it helps to talk things through too.

If you find yourself feeling low and sad regularly it can become a problem and affect the quality of your life.  You may need additional support such as a Counsellor or Life Coach to identify what it is that is keeping you stuck and then move you forward.  Making a decision to contact a professional is often a daunting prospect however, you will feel somuch better once you make that move.  Taking action is very therapeutic.

If you prefer to work things through in the privacy of your own home then have a look at my on-line coaching programme designed to show you how to overcome life's challenges including feeling low and sad.  It comes with a 100% Satisfaction guarantee.  For more details Click Here

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Feeling rejected?

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I have been delivering a two day training course to prepare people for the new role they are about to take.  It's part of the recruitment process and a requirement to attend prior to a contract being issued.  On the last in a series of events one of the participants shared with me that she was a last minute delegate as she had been on a reserve list.

During the course she commented that the pace was slow as she was used to a very busy working environment.  I immediately sensed that she was still feeling upset about not having been selected at the start of the recruitment.  She continued to make comments about the fact that she was a reserve throughout the two days.  On chatting to her she had assumed that her experience in a similar role 10 years ago would be enough to make her successful.  She also felt rejected.

It's an example of making assumptions and then holding on to unresourceful emotions i.e. the disappoitment or anger of being rejected.

It transpired that five other people on the course were also on the reserve list.  I would not have known by looking at them.  It was not an issue for them and they were just very happy to be called forward for the job.


Things don't always turn out how we expect and there's normally a lesson to be learnt.  The next time you feel rejected look for the lesson that you need to learn.  What do you need to do differently?  What other options are there?

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

P.S. How to easily overcome your fears.  Get a free report here

Problems or Challenges?

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Do you have problems in your life? When you think of the problem how do you feel? Does it put you into a negative state or even panic or frustration or maybe depression? Do you start to feel that it's not fair that you have so many problems? The more you feel like this about what you are facing the more it defines your identity. You become the problem. Is that how you really want to live your life? Is that how you really want to be seen by others? If you are constantly complaining about the problems in your life then that's how the people around you will see you, a problem!

In the present moment right now ask yourself 'What is the problem now?'. The answer will be nothing, not in the present moment. Yes you have challenges to face however, in the present moment they don't matter.
So can you choose to view your problems as challenges to overcome? Think of one of your problems and then view it as a challenge, do it now? How do you feel? Do you feel a little apprehensive, maybe excited, determined to overcome the challenge?

How do you want to live your life? With problems? I'll let you decide.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 7 of 7

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Part 7 of the Overcome Life's Challenges series.



Do you listen to life's whisper and act on it? Or do you wait until you hear the scream telling you that what you are doing is not right or you need to take a different path? Get in touch with your feelings and if it feels right go full steam ahead.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 6 of 7

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Part 6 of the series to Overcome Life's Challenges with excellent words of wisdom to help you create succes in your life.



Are you in alignment? Are you doing what you want to do? When you are everything fals into place and life runs smoothly. I do a personal alignment check for members of my Personal Achiever's club. If you would like to join get more information here

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 5 of 7

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Part 5 of the series Overcome Life's Challenges sharing with you words of wisdom and truth about how to live a life successfully.



I like the part about knowing when you have made the right decision and how you feel quiet and peaceful as a result, even is it also makes you sad. I have experienced this when making difficult decisions such as ending a long term relationship. As soon as you make the decision you just know its right and it feels as though a weight has been lifted.

Remember the past has no power over you. Live in the present moment and enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 4 of 7

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Part 3 of the Overcome LIfe's Challenges series with Deepak Chopra and others.



What is your perception of reality? Do you see comfort or discomfort? Joy or Pain?
What is your focus in life? That's what you get so if you are not getting what you want check out what you are really focusing on? If you keep thinking I don't want....then that's what you are focusing on and that's what will show up!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 3 of 7

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Part 3 of the Overcome Life's Challenges series with Deepak Chopra, Oprah Winfrey and many other influential people.



How do you want to live your life? Do you have problems or challenges? Do your problems create your identity? What impression do people take away after meeting you?
In the present moment ask yourself 'What is the problem now?'

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 2 of 7

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Part 2 of the Overcome Life's Challenges video series from influential speakers such as Deepak Chopra and Anthony Robbins.

Let me know your thoughts.



Do you experience lack in your life? Do you look to another person or person's to make you feel complete? Instead of blaming the other person for your own lack, look inward at yourself. How do you view yourself? Do you allow your own light to shine?

How much do you complain about what's happening or not happening in your life? Complaining about such things means you are in denial about your life. You are not living in the present moment and that's all there is. Are you in denial? The present moment is life itself there is nothing else. Stop wishing things were different and enjoy what you have. That way you stand a better chance of eventually getting all those other things you want.

Enjoy the process of life and make sure you overcome life's challenges, 
'Let there be light'

Noelyne Jones

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Overcome Life's Challenges - Part 1 of 7

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Hi I just found this series of videos to overcome life's challenges and thought it was very relevant to this blog as it's all about overcoming life's challlenges.  I'd be interested to know your thoughts so please feel free to comment.



Part 2 of Overcome Life's Challenges tomorrow.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

P.S. Get a copy of my Free Special Report on How to Overcome Your Fears here

Unexpected challenges

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How do you respond to unexpected challenges?  Do you go straight into panic zone and rush around as though this is the worst thing possible that could happen?  Do you get angry and start blaming others for the problem?  Or do you calmly figure out what caused the problem and then look for a solution?

There's no doubt that people respond to what happens in very different ways and a lot depends on your emotional development and your experiences in life.  Let me give you an example.  A family member gets into the shower only to find there's no hot water.  A bit of a shock when you are expecting hot water to come out like it always does.  Reaction from family member (A) : Is the hot water on? Have you turned it off?
Second family member (B) checks the airing cupboard and yes the hot water is on.
A:  Did you get the 5 star insurance?  
B:  No.
A: (Angrily), Well if you had of done we could have called them out straight away.  Goes off in a huff.
B - Thinks for a moment and wonders if the new water meter fitted earlier in the day has caused a problem in the water supply.  Phones the water company who believe there could be low water pressure or an air lock in the system and suggest a couple of solutions.  B tries these to no avail and arranges for a water technician to call out free of charge as the problem has been caused by the work carried out earlier.

Two different approaches to solving an unexpected problem.  How do you respond to unexpected challenges?  Do you get annoyed particularly if it stops you from doing what you had planned?  Or do you look for the hidden opportunity to do something different?  Maybe the challenge has been sent for a reason.  Many people were saved from death during the twin towers attack, due to unexpected challenges and situations which meant they were delayed getting to work that day and so were not in the building when the planes hit.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Poor Health Low Energy

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Do you wish you had more energy?  Do you have a health condition that you believe stops you from having more energy? Do you feel sorry for yourself as a result?  What if you believed that you could have more energy despite having a health condition?


Don't underestimate the power of the mind to overcome problems including poor health and low energy.  Don't believe me?  You think I'm a bit crazy and talking nonsense?  Give it a go and see what happens.  What have you got to lose?  What if it works and just by believing that you can improve your health and have more energy it actually happens?

Remeber the famous quote by Napolean Hill 'What the mind can conceive and the heart can believe, you can achieve'

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Is this one challenge too much to overcome?

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I'm only one week into caring for my partner and my brain feels addled.  How do you cope with caring responsibilities, working full time and having a life?  My hat is well and truly off to people who do this.


I know I can handle whatever happens and it's about adjusting my approach to life for the time being.  That's the things at least I know he will recover.  Many people face a lifetime of caring for someone who will continue to be dependent on them.

My priorities have changed.  My focus is caring for my partner and assisting his return to full health.  And of course looking after the needs of the boys. Whilst preparing for my partner to go into hospital I knew that it would be different and that I would have sole responsibility and you think that you can handle it and continue with daily routines.  However, it's only when you actually get there that you really find out what it's like.


The thing that has dropped down my list of priorities is my business.  I am fortunate that I am in a position to allow this to happen.  I can keep things ticking over in just 30 mins a day.  I'm going to have to postpone my action plan in terms of business building however, it's only for a short period.  At the end of the day I value my partner and my family more than I do my business.  They are all important it's just that my family come first.


So to answer my question: Is this one challenge too much to overcome?  If I continued to put unreasonable demands on myself and have too high of expectations then the answer is 'YES'.  Even I have my limits.

So to ensure you overcome your challenges the important thing is to know what is important, know your limits and prioritise.  Then put your heart and soul into what you have chosen to do.

It must be time for his next cup of tea.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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A new role

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Life continues to throw challenges for me to overcome.  Just when you thought everything was sorted along comes another situation to handle.  Since coming back from holiday in August I've been working full time on a training design contract, getting used to living with my partner and his two teenage sons, overcoming the problems caused by the ex-tenant at my rental property and handling my partner's stress levels whilst he was waiting to go into hospital for major surgery on his back.  And now that he is out of hospital I have a new role of nurse.

I'm now overcoming the challenges of looking after a loved one who is still in pain from the operation and confined to bed for the time being.  It's not easy to understand what the other person is feeling and there have been a couple of occasions when I have misinterpreted his request.  Have you done that?  You think the person is joking or messing around, like they normally do and you fail to notice that they are being serious perhaps because you have put your mind to something else.  Then it's fireworks as pain and stress of managing the pain explode because they are not egtting what they need staright away.  I'm learning to respond immediately just in case.



At least it confirms that I was right not to follow a profession as a nurse or carer.  I admire people in those professions even more now.

Thankfully, my training contract has come to an end now and I can focus on caring full-time.

I'll keep you updated with progress,



Noelyne

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Solutions to problems - How to overcome them easily

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Do you have a problem that you don't know how to overcome?  Are you stuck in a rut and feel you have no choice but to keep doing what you've always done?  Would you like to know how to overcome your problems easily?  Finding solutions to problems can be much easier than you think.

You are bombarded with billions of bits of information every second of every waking moment and your mind would explode if you noticed absolutely everything.  For that reason the mind deletes information so that you can cope.  It also distorts information to suit you too.  I'm sure you have been in a situation where two people have experienced the same event however, have a completely different story to tell.  They noticed different things, felt different and took different meanings from the event.

What information are you deleting from your conscious mind?  What details are you distorting to suit you?  It's information that is there all the time waiting for you to find it.  It's just that normally you are too busy rushing around with the daily tasks at home and work to notice the opportunities, the answers to your problems, the beauty that surrounds you all the time.  When was the last time that you stopped to take notice of what's there before you?

Whenever I have a problem or something bothering me I stop and ask 'What do I need to do?'  More often than not the answer appears although you never know how or when.  It might be a phone call or a chance meeting or a website that you happen to find.  It's about opening your eyes and mind to the possibility.  The solution to your problem is there just waiting to be found when you are ready.

In this journey through life I have learned to take notice of new information or signs that appear to me a few times. So when I become aware of something that's new or different I start to take notice and listen to my inner voice saying, you should have a look at that.  The most recent one is 'Rumi'.  Until listening to one of Deepak Chopra's audio products I had never heard of the name.  Then more recently the word 'Rumi' cropped up again in a different context.  So I thought I'd take a look at what or who Rumi is.

I found this video on You Tube which goes some way to explaining the approach that Rumi had in life.



Here's an extract from wikipedia on Rumi:

Although Rumi's works were written in Persian, Rumi's importance is considered to transcend national and ethnic borders. His original works are widely read in their original language across the Persian-speaking world. Translations of his works are very popular in other countries. His poetry has influenced Persian literature as well as Urdu, Punjabi and other Pakistani languages written in Perso/Arabic script e.g. Pashto and Sindhi. His poems have been widely translated into many of the world's languages and transposed into various formats; He has been described as the "most popular poet in America" in 2007.

Here's one of his poems:

Let go of your worries

and be completely clear-hearted,

like the face of a mirror

that contains no images.

If you want a clear mirror,

behold yourself

and see the shameless truth,

which the mirror reflects.

If metal can be polished

to a mirror-like finish,

what polishing might the mirror

of the heart require?

Between the mirror and the heart

is this single difference:

the heart conceals secrets,

while the mirror does not.

The Divani Shamsi Tabriz, XIII

His work is powerful and beautiful and senistive and emotional.  I have no idea why I needed to blog about Rumi today or why I need to know of his work.  I trust that it will be revealed to me.

I encourage you to stop and look around.  What are you missing?  What are you currently deleting from your mind that could actually make a big difference in your life?  What is staring you in the face but you're just too busy trying to solve the problem to notice?  What sign are you ignoring?

Enjoy the process of life!

Noelyne Jones

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Overcoming Life's Challenges - Are you tired of it?

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I've given up.....hoping that one day I will no longer have challenges to overcome in life.  A few years ago I had got to the point where I was tired of the constant struggle to overcome the challenges that seem to continually come my way.  Challenges at work, in my personal life, with my relationships and after my divorce the financial challenges.  I know that you learn most from the experiences that stretch you and take you out of your comfort zone however, I had got to the point where I no longer wanted to be stretched and developed.

Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever felt very tired of the constant battle to keep your head above water?  Always feeling as though no matter what you do nothing changes or improves?  Thinking that you are just about to get there, then something else arrives to knock you off your stride?  Like redundancy or discovering your partner or husband is having an affair?  Have you ever felt that you just don't want to have to do what it takes to survive and be successful?

The problem is with hoping that you will find happiness and peace and no struggles one day is, that one day never arrives.  Do you know why it will never arrive?  Because it's always in the future.  That's a big lesson I have learned.  There is only now.  The past is history, the future a mystery and the present is a gift that's why they call it the present.  It's here right now that you will find the peace and contentment and satisfaction and happiness that you desire.

Once realise that there is only now you can start to let go of the worry, frustration and feeling of constant battles.  You just need to know that whatever happens you will handle it.  I've turned my life around from that desperate feeling of never really getting anywhere with my life and I now have the life of my dreams.  Yes there are always things that I desire and strive for, life would be no fun if you didn't have those hopes.  The important thing is to enjoy the present moment.

And life continues to throw me those challenges.  I've already blogged about one this week when I was asked at short notice to travel to Portsmouth to deliver a training course the following morning.  What’s challenging about that I hear you ask?  I had been up since 5am to travel to a meeting 3 hours away and was sat on a train on the return journey when the call came through.  I arrived home at 7.30 and then drove to Portsmouth arriving at midnight. 

This week I've also discovered an issue with one of my tenants, that needs to be dealt with immediately.  A few years ago this would have sent me into the panic zone and sleepless nights.  That feeling of fear you get to the point where you freeze not knowing what to do.  However, now it's a process that needs to be followed to get the desired outcome.  No I don't want to have to be dealing with this, it would be lovely if everything was as it should be, but it's not.  And the sooner you accept the reality the sooner you can take action to do something about it.

It's often other people's behaviour that causes the problem.  In this case, a standard or something that it very important to me has been broken.  When you feel strongly enough about the situation and have clear standards then the solution is easy to choose and the action that follows easy to take, even though you don't really want to be doing it.  Knowing who to contact for support helps immensely.  I used to bottle things up for fear of appearing as though I couldn’t cope, for fear of what other people might think or say.  I didn’t want to have to deal with their reaction.

You all need some time now and again in the comfort zone, it’s where you feel safe and things are easy.  There’s a familiarity and this can happen at home and at work when you have been living or working on a task for some time.  If you stay in the comfort zone too long it can become boring and you start to feel that there must be more to life than this.

If you get out of the habit of setting yourself new goals and activities to follow then you can easily go into your panic zone when facing a new or unexpected situation.  This is where you allow your fear of what might or might not happen to stop you from taking action, you freeze.  It’s inevitable that you will feel this at different stages throughout your life.  You need to recognise the feeling and get curious about what it’s telling you.  What are you afraid of?  You need to get back to the Stretch zone, where you will feel excited and challenged rather than fearful.

When you overcome your fear and step out of your comfort zone into the stretch zone life becomes much more exciting and challenging.  You become more confident as you develop new skills and overcome those challenges.

I've learned that the only thing that I can truly control in my life is my reaction to whatever happens.  I've also know that I have the confidence and courage to overcome anything.  Life is a balancing act of living in the comfort zone, moving into the stretch zone when appropriate and recognising when you are in the panic zone and need to change your approach.  I'm sharing even more of these tips and techniques in my Membership site so that you too can have all the confidence you need and have a wonderful life.
Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Identifying and Overcoming a problem you didn't know you had

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What I love about what I do is that it also helps me to identify and solve my own problems when I least expect it.  The other day I was coaching a group of people in how to create a compelling future.  I use the Wheel of Life as a tool to help people understand how satisifed they are in important areas of their life such as Health, Wealth, Career, Relationships, Leisure time, Personal Growth, Contribution and Family.  I ask people to rate themselves in each area on a  scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being very dissatisfied and 10 being totally satisfied.

This gives a visual representation of how they view their current state and identifies areas to improve.  It's quite revealing.  Whilst doing this exercise one of the participants asked me 'How satisifed am I with my life?'.  Now given that I am very happy with everything that I have achieved so far, very happy with all areas of my life, I was quite surprised when I hesitated to respond and then did so with an air on uncertainty.

The other participants picked up on this and said they were not convinced that I am satisifed.  I knew in that moment that it was due to a conversation at the weekend with my partner.  I am not able to go into details at this moment as it was a confidential conversation however, I recognised that it had unsettled me.  I know that I will need to make some important decisions in the future and I want to make sure that I make the best decision for all of us.  There is no decision to make at this moment as there are other factors outside our control.  Only when something changes will I need to make a decision.

In the meantime I am back to being totally satisifed with who I am and where I am in my journey through life.  I actually did the Wheel of Life exercise to make sure.  It's good to get into the habit of reviewing your life every now and again.  I know what I want so need to stay focused on that.  It's very easy to be influenced by other people's fears and doubts and desires.  That's OK if they resonate with you.  That's why it is so important to be clear on the sort of life that you want so that you don't end up with someone elses dream.

I talk much more about how to identify what you want and get the life you deserve in my Membership club which is just about to be launched.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcoming challenges on holiday

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Towards the end of a recent holiday to Turkey we discovered that all flights back to the UK were cancelled due to the Volcanic Ash Cloud produced by the erupting Ielandic volcano.  This presented us with the challenge of overcoming some obstacles.  For example, we were unable to contact any of the emergency numbers due to the phone lines being engaged or going straight to answer machine.  This was of course frustrating and created anxiety.  It's the not knowing what's happening, the fear of the unknown and the consequences of the fact that we could not get home in time to keep commitments.

To overcome our fear and anxiety my partner and I helped each other through these first couple of days by dicussing options and expressing any fears and doubts we had.  This helped tremedously.  We did as much as we could to overcome the adversity and to resolve the situation.  However, eventually we resigned ourselves to sitting tight until it was time to check out of the hotel.  About 8 hours later we received a message that our flight operator had tried to contact us at the hotel.  This was a huge relief as we realised that someone did know about us.  The nervousness and difficulties of the previous two days started to dissipate.

On speaking with the company rep we were even more relieved to discover that the flight operator were more than happy to accommodate us in one of their hotels nearer the airport to await confirmation of the return flight.  In one phone call and with new information we had overcome the difficulties of being stranded in a foriegn country.  So that day the next stage of our holiday/ return to the UK commenced.  Our original transfer taxi dropped us off at the new hotel and we settled in.  We felt so grateful and gave thanks for our very good fortune.  Reports on the TV were coming through thick and fast about other people's misfortune and struggles to return home.

Then followed days of waiting for information, checking with the reps regularly and generally making the most of the situation.  Calls and messages to the UK had been made to cancel appointments and training courses, so minimising the effect on others.

What was very surprising was the number of people in the Hotel who complained about the situation, saying that more needed to be done to get them home.  They complained to the Reps who in my opinion did an exceptional job of keeping us informed in difficult times.

We were just happy to be safe, in a wonderful country, plenty of food, lovely hotel and exceptional views.  The sun shone every day, so we just relaxed and enjoyed our good fortune.

I did learn a few other things as a result of being stranded.

• check holiday insurance thoroughly so you are clear on what is and isn't covered
• make sure you know how to access important accounts such as bank accounts, in case you need to pay bills, transfer money etc.
• if you run a business make sure you can access important information whilst abroad, take a laptop if poss or a portable memory stick/back disk
• automate your business as much as possible
• take extra medication/important supplements that you are unable to get abroad
• Have fun no matter what!

In these situations you need to accept that things are outside your control.  By all means do whatever you can to improve your situation however, sometimes you just have to accept that you have done all you can.  Then it's time to sit back and relax.  Worrying and getting stressed out or complaining will not help the situation.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Problems to Expect When You Try to Achieve Your Goals

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Problems to Expect When You Try to Achieve Your Goals

Every person may not be fully aware that all successful people have experienced problems that, at more than one time, demotivated them enough to decide to quit. Hindrances are inevitable in every successful person's life, so you should always expect several to come your way as you try to achieve your goals. Here are some of the things to expect soon.

Financial Setbacks
Money is often the main problem that hinders people from achieving their dreams. There are challenges that arise that require a lot of financial capital or support. The problem for most individuals is that they can't seem to find the proper source to adequately maintain their needs for a variety of projects. Politicians are one of the most common people who need financial support all the time to fund their programs, campaigns and donations.

The main idea is to learn how to wait for the right opportunity, to avoid exhausting your resources too soon and unwisely. It is important to consider other things that will help you survive for the long term. If you're going into business, you should prepare for the startup capital, as well as operational expenses to support the company until it is ready to stand independently. Make sure you plan and review everything before investing.

Problems with People

Even though you may already be ready for different types of challenges at different times, others may not be as cooperative or as capable as you. Each person has unique needs and aspirations, so as a leader, you need to focus on these first to gain their interest and help. People who are selfish or unwilling to work with you can have traits that can cause the company to collapse. Some of the negative characteristics include dishonesty, being rebellious and laziness. All these can hinder your progress and keep you from reaching your goals.

It is important to develop leadership skills, so that you can adequately encourage and motivate all your people to help you reach certain objectives. Give them missions and functions that best suit their own strengths and capabilities. Understand and get to know other people better so that you can expand the network fully, opening more opportunities in the process. Talk to other successful individuals and learn from their own experience, mistakes and personal techniques. These people usually are more than willing to share their wisdom with you.

Problems with Nature

The forces of nature are truly inevitable so you always need to have a second or third backup plan ready for these. Some of the things to expect are bad weather, accidents, disease, economic crisis, death, theft, fraud, scandals and change in the system or government. Try to create plans and objectives that are flexible. You can set deadlines for your projects, but make sure that you still have other ways around if the unstoppable occurs.

Natural forces are part of life so you will encounter these as long as you have goals. Even those without goals
need to deal with these aspects. The most important thing is that you do not lose steam and stay motivated and fired up to reach your goals, no matter the cost. Find alternatives and other people who can help you deal and cope during setbacks. Learn from your experience and stay prepared for repeat incidents.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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