A Message from Noelyne...
I was sitting in the garden yesterday evening enjoying a glass of wine and the wonderful weather. It's been so long since we have been able to sit out until 10pm in the UK. You have to take advantage of the opportunity when it happens. Whilst we were chatting my partner asked me if I regretted any of my decisions in life...
I initially thought about my decision to join the civil service but then realised that the decision I most regretted was when I was 16. I used to be very good at sport particularly athletics and I had the opportunity to represent my County at Hurdles in the National Athletics competition. The problem was that it was on a Saturday and I also had a Saturday job which I wanted to keep. There was a lot of competition for the jobs at this particular store. Money was also very tight in our family so the income was fantastic for me.
My sports teacher was very keen for me to attend the athletics and even wrote a letter to my employer...however, my employer said that if I took a day off I would lose my position. So I chose not to go to the athletics. I kept my job.
However, I will never ever know if I was good enough to represent my country at Hurdles and what this could have led onto as a career. I was passionate about sport yet not confident enough to make good decisions. I allowed my fear of losing a job and not having an income to prevent me from following my passion.
There's the lesson. Whatever decision you are about to make follow your heart. If you are passionate about something then do it. You might want to ask yourself the question: 'In ten years time will I regret doing or not doing this...?'
Learn from my mistake and make sure you don't have any regrets.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne Jones
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Sunday 7 July 2013
Thursday 4 July 2013
How To Control Emotions
Hello,
I've recently been on holiday with my 79 year old Mum, who like most elderly Mum's never want to be a bother or cause any fuss... So why is it so stressful and why so I struggle to control my emotions when I am with her. I find myself getting annoyed or irritated by her behaviour. When she tries her best not to make a fuss it actually increases my frustration. I do my best not to show my feelings as I don't want to upset her and end up feeling sad myself. It's been the same every time I spend a full week with her.
Thankfully for me I was reading a book by Joyce Meyer called 'Never Give Up'. I was attracted to this book as I've had a tendency to start things and then not finish them. It was an ideal book for me and I learned a considerable amount about the importance of persistence and continuing to take action when you totally believe in what you are doing.
In one of the chapters it referred to the situation I have just described about how I feel when I am with my Mum. The advice given is that when you feel a negative emotion towards someone you need to look within yourself for the reason for the emotion. I cannot start to tell you how powerful this is. It made me break the habit I had got into of blaming my Mum for her behaviour. Instead I looked at why I was irritated with the way she behaves and I can tell you that I uncovered some of my own fears and beliefs about myself, my own behaviour. It also made me face up to how I still feel about significant life events that happened when I was a child. I was quite amazed! I thought I had dealt with all that stuff particularly am I am a personal development expert! From then on the moment I started to feel a negative emotion towards my Mum I asked myself the question "What's causing this within me?" Not only did that thought stop the negative emotion it freed me up to be happy.
And of course, it all had an impact on my Mum. Behaviour breeds behaviour. My behaviour had changed which affected her.
To end a long story... we had a very enjoyable holiday!
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. She wants to go to Crete and Turkey next year now!!
I've recently been on holiday with my 79 year old Mum, who like most elderly Mum's never want to be a bother or cause any fuss... So why is it so stressful and why so I struggle to control my emotions when I am with her. I find myself getting annoyed or irritated by her behaviour. When she tries her best not to make a fuss it actually increases my frustration. I do my best not to show my feelings as I don't want to upset her and end up feeling sad myself. It's been the same every time I spend a full week with her.
Thankfully for me I was reading a book by Joyce Meyer called 'Never Give Up'. I was attracted to this book as I've had a tendency to start things and then not finish them. It was an ideal book for me and I learned a considerable amount about the importance of persistence and continuing to take action when you totally believe in what you are doing.
In one of the chapters it referred to the situation I have just described about how I feel when I am with my Mum. The advice given is that when you feel a negative emotion towards someone you need to look within yourself for the reason for the emotion. I cannot start to tell you how powerful this is. It made me break the habit I had got into of blaming my Mum for her behaviour. Instead I looked at why I was irritated with the way she behaves and I can tell you that I uncovered some of my own fears and beliefs about myself, my own behaviour. It also made me face up to how I still feel about significant life events that happened when I was a child. I was quite amazed! I thought I had dealt with all that stuff particularly am I am a personal development expert! From then on the moment I started to feel a negative emotion towards my Mum I asked myself the question "What's causing this within me?" Not only did that thought stop the negative emotion it freed me up to be happy.
And of course, it all had an impact on my Mum. Behaviour breeds behaviour. My behaviour had changed which affected her.
To end a long story... we had a very enjoyable holiday!
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. She wants to go to Crete and Turkey next year now!!
Thursday 20 June 2013
How To Overcome Life's Challenges - e-book RELEASE!
At last... I've released the book many of you have been asking me to write for a long time. It's available as an e-book for immediate download here or you can order a printed version, details below.
The book contains proven steps that will build your confidence and self-esteem and free you up to get the life that you want. You will discover what's been holding you back and how to stop being afraid and finally achieve your dreams. You will be able to overcome your fears and anxiety, feel motivated to take action, smash those negative thoughts and finally have a positive outlook on life. Enjoy good relationships, feel happy and good about yourself and be even more successful.
Yes it is all possible. You'll also get to know a little of my story too and how I transformed my life from a shy, self-conscious civil servant to running my own international business and a few of the challenges that I overcame along the way.
You can have a copy now for only £8.95 by clicking the button below.
The book contains proven steps that will build your confidence and self-esteem and free you up to get the life that you want. You will discover what's been holding you back and how to stop being afraid and finally achieve your dreams. You will be able to overcome your fears and anxiety, feel motivated to take action, smash those negative thoughts and finally have a positive outlook on life. Enjoy good relationships, feel happy and good about yourself and be even more successful.
Yes it is all possible. You'll also get to know a little of my story too and how I transformed my life from a shy, self-conscious civil servant to running my own international business and a few of the challenges that I overcame along the way.
You can have a copy now for only £8.95 by clicking the button below.
Thursday 6 June 2013
Breaking news!
A Message from Noelyne...
At last I have finally got around to writing my first book which is titled 'How to Overcome Life's Challenges'. Sorry about the title, it just seemed to sum up my experiences in life. Anyway, the book takes you through a step by step mini-course on how to overcome your fears and have the life of your dreams.
It will show you how to be more confident in any situation and gives you a blueprint for success... a kind of day by day plan of how to turn your life around completely and live the life of your dreams.
Imagine feeling totally confident now, feeling completely happy and at ease with yourself, moving to your dream house, getting that job you have always wanted, enjoying fantastic relationships... The book will show you how to achieve all of this.
And it's going to be available very soon. I'll be letting you know shortly when it's due to be published and how you can get hold of a copy.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Remember to get a copy of my Free Report which gives you a preview of what's in the book.
At last I have finally got around to writing my first book which is titled 'How to Overcome Life's Challenges'. Sorry about the title, it just seemed to sum up my experiences in life. Anyway, the book takes you through a step by step mini-course on how to overcome your fears and have the life of your dreams.
It will show you how to be more confident in any situation and gives you a blueprint for success... a kind of day by day plan of how to turn your life around completely and live the life of your dreams.
Imagine feeling totally confident now, feeling completely happy and at ease with yourself, moving to your dream house, getting that job you have always wanted, enjoying fantastic relationships... The book will show you how to achieve all of this.
And it's going to be available very soon. I'll be letting you know shortly when it's due to be published and how you can get hold of a copy.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Remember to get a copy of my Free Report which gives you a preview of what's in the book.
Sunday 19 May 2013
4 Secrets To Leadership Success
Keynote speaker Chris Hyman, CEO SERCO.
Passion
Compassion
Empathy
Courage
In his speech at the HTB Leadership conference Chris Hyman, survivor of 7/11, and mega successful CEO of SERCO described his 4 key areas for success in leadership.
Friday 17 May 2013
Leadership Tips From A Mega Successful Church Leader
I recently attended an international seminar for leaders where one of the key speakers was Bill Hybels, Founder and Senior Pastor at Willow Creek Church Illinois. Here are the key messages that I took away:
1. Vision casting creates passion
Sometimes it's not easy to get people to buy into the vision so you need to flip it and build a case of why we can't stay here.
2. Leaders build teams to achieve the vision
The 5 C's of what leaders need to look for when recruiting.
Character
Competence
Chemistry
Culture of organisation and fit of individual
Calling to the purpose of the organisation keeps you in the game
It's about moving from Good to better to great to fantastic.
Stay faithful.
3. Do regular reviews of your staff. Ask yourself...
Who could you not afford to lose? Consider the people at the bottom of the list and ask yourself what's causing them to be there? Is it them? Is it you? Are they being sufficiently challenged? Are the over or under challenged?
4. Challenge.
High achievers kept under challenged will
leave. Seriously over challenged will go sick.
Appropriately challenged will plod along so the best performance is achieved when people are just above
appropriately challenged.
5. Self leadership
When you are on empty it's your job to replenish yourself.
Patience, vision, humour and fun.
Wednesday 15 May 2013
Leaderships Tips For Team Success
I've recently attended the HTB Leadership conference at the Albert Hall where I was fortunate to listen to many inspirational speakers from the business world. One such speaker was Patrick Lencioni, President of The Table Group, a Management Consulting firm based in America. He spoke about his most recent book the 5 Dysfunctions of a team and I have captured the main points here for you:
The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team
1. Absence of Trust
- vulnerability based
trust
- 1 member of team cannot be vulnerable it will spread like
a virus. The leader needs to go first!
2. Fear of Conflict
Make sure your team are not holding back.
Failing to disagree is dooming that relationship to failure.
3. Lack of commitment
Waiting for Consensus not good. Takes too long. Disagree
then commit. Rarely get natural consensus.
leaders Need to break the tie. If people don't disagree they don't
commit they passively agree then go back to their departments and say 'I'm not
sure if that will work'
4. Avoidance of Accountability
Where this is no commitment people
will not hold each other accountable. Where there is no accountability for behaviours there is a dysfunctional team. Behavioural accountability - leaders don't do this! They do
hold them accountable for the numbers.
If you love someone hold them accountable.
5. In attention to results - focus on collective results
Friday 3 May 2013
The Seeds Of Success Start With Clarity
A Message from Noelyne...
When you are clear about what you want in life then you will be successful. Clarity is the starting point. Get clear about what you want to do, be or have, believe that you can achieve it with all your heart and then take action to move you towards achievement of your goal.
Without clarity you can still take action however, it will not be focused on what you want so you could end up anywhere. You could end up where you definitely do not want to be. For example, if you have no idea what you want to be or do when you leave school you will probably end up in a job doing something you didn't necessarily want to do. You end up drifting with no real purpose. Some of you may be thinking, where's the problem there? And for many people that is perfectly acceptable.
However, if you have a desire to make a difference and to have the best life possible it start with getting clear about who you are, who you want to be, what you want to do and have. When you follow your heart your life becomes delicious. Life is much easier when you are happy in your own skin and what you choose to be and do. When you are happy you are naturally attractive and so attract more of what you want. It's that simple!
And always, always be grateful for who you are and where you are and what you have, no matter what happens develop and attitude of gratitude.
Enjoy the process of life
Noelyne
When you are clear about what you want in life then you will be successful. Clarity is the starting point. Get clear about what you want to do, be or have, believe that you can achieve it with all your heart and then take action to move you towards achievement of your goal.
Without clarity you can still take action however, it will not be focused on what you want so you could end up anywhere. You could end up where you definitely do not want to be. For example, if you have no idea what you want to be or do when you leave school you will probably end up in a job doing something you didn't necessarily want to do. You end up drifting with no real purpose. Some of you may be thinking, where's the problem there? And for many people that is perfectly acceptable.
However, if you have a desire to make a difference and to have the best life possible it start with getting clear about who you are, who you want to be, what you want to do and have. When you follow your heart your life becomes delicious. Life is much easier when you are happy in your own skin and what you choose to be and do. When you are happy you are naturally attractive and so attract more of what you want. It's that simple!
And always, always be grateful for who you are and where you are and what you have, no matter what happens develop and attitude of gratitude.
Enjoy the process of life
Noelyne
Friday 15 March 2013
Meditate for Health
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| Meditation (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn) |
Join me and let's meditate together for perfect health. It is amazing to follow a program like this and the benefits are phenomenal.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Join here https://www.chopracentermeditation.com/Bestsellers/LandingPage.aspx?BookId=178
Tuesday 12 February 2013
Who else wants to know how to have a great career
I've just watched this inspirational video
Enjoy! Noelyne P.S. Sign up for my FREE Report for confidence boosting tips to get you moving in the right direction.
Enjoy! Noelyne P.S. Sign up for my FREE Report for confidence boosting tips to get you moving in the right direction.
Monday 28 January 2013
How to get what you want
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| This is a "thought bubble". It is an illustration depicting thought. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) |
For example, if you want more money in your life what do you think about? Are you focusing on the lack of money? Your debts? All the unpaid bills? If so, what you are thinking about will expand. i.e. more debt.
How to turn it around.
Be truly grateful for what you currently have even if you don't have very much. Be thankful for every penny you have ever received. Become an excellent money manager, spend less than you earn and save the rest.
Do you lack confidence? What do you think about? The confidence you don't have or how fearful and useless you feel?
How to turn it around
1. Get curious about what you feel when you want to do something but something inside stops you. What is that feeling? What is it telling you? Is it a voice saying 'You can't do it, or your not good enough or I don't have what it takes? If so these are beliefs that you hold about yourself and they will be limiting your success. Once you are aware of these beliefs you can change them and choose better beliefs. I am good enough or I can do this or I do whatever it takes.
2. Imagine yourself doing whatever it is that you want to do.
3. Do it!
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne Jones
P.S. Claim a complimentary copy of my Special Report to Boost your Confidence Now. Enter your name and e-mail in the boxes on the right hand side of the page for an instant download.
Be truly grateful for what you currently have even if you don't have very much. Be thankful for every penny you have ever received. Become an excellent money manager, spend less than you earn and save the rest.
Do you lack confidence? What do you think about? The confidence you don't have or how fearful and useless you feel?
How to turn it around
1. Get curious about what you feel when you want to do something but something inside stops you. What is that feeling? What is it telling you? Is it a voice saying 'You can't do it, or your not good enough or I don't have what it takes? If so these are beliefs that you hold about yourself and they will be limiting your success. Once you are aware of these beliefs you can change them and choose better beliefs. I am good enough or I can do this or I do whatever it takes.
2. Imagine yourself doing whatever it is that you want to do.
3. Do it!
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne Jones
P.S. Claim a complimentary copy of my Special Report to Boost your Confidence Now. Enter your name and e-mail in the boxes on the right hand side of the page for an instant download.
Saturday 26 January 2013
How to forgive and forget
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| Asking For Forgiveness (Photo credit: hang_in_there) |
Do you still feel hurt as a result of what someone close has done to you? Maybe a family member or friend betrayed you? Do you feel resentment towards someone because they let you down? Every time you think of them you feel hurt, or anger or upset. In fact you find it difficult to get this person out of your mind and find yourself dwelling on what happened. You may even feel rejected and unloved. And what’s worse is that the person concerned seems to be getting on with their lives as if nothing happened.
Does this resonate with you?
It’s not easy to come to terms with a breakdown in a relationship particularly if the other person made the choice to do what they did. The trust that you once had for this person will have gone completely and it’s not easy to learn to trust that person again for fear that they will repeat the behaviour and you will end up feeling hurt again.
The problem with feeling hurt or resentment or anger about the situation is that the only person who is being affected is you. By re-living the experience day after day you are keeping what happened in the past alive in the present. You are allowing that negative experience to affect you now. The thoughts that you have now not only create your current reality they also create your future. What you focus on expands. You are creating more negativity in your life.
How to break the pattern
1. You need to want to move on.
2. Write a letter to the person telling them how you feel, write down all the things you would like to say to them, really allow all your emotions and thoughts to flow out onto the paper. Once the letter is written you can burn it. You are not going to actually send it to the person. This works really well for people who have passed away and you didn’t get a chance to speak with them.
3. To be able to move on you need to forgive the person. Straight away I hear you saying ‘There’s no way I can forgive’. And if you feel strongly about that then Yes you are absolutely right, you won’t choose to forgive and you will stay stuck where you are. Forgiveness is that powerful. Let me explain I am not asking you to actually speak to the person concerned, although you can if you wish. The first step is to forgive the person in your mind and then out loud. Says the words and then let go.
4. Repeat the process if necessary.
5. Choose to think positive thoughts about your life. Start to dream of the life that you want.
It’s time for you to stop allowing that person to continue to influence your life in a negative way.
It's time for you to enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Sign up for my Free Report to Boost Your Confidence Now. Just enter your name and e-mail in the boxes for instant download.
Saturday 19 January 2013
Take action to boost confidence
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
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