Still I Rise - Maya Angelou

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Yet another powerful poem...

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou

Noelyne Jones

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How to be Miserable

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A man's as miserable as he thinks he is.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.
Wayne Dyer


1. Always think about the past and tell yourself that you will make changes tomorrow.

If you dwell on past failures and bad experiences you will recreate these feeling again and again and will continue to feel miserable.  It leads to low self-esteem so if that's what you want please carry on living in the past.

2. Believe that you have no choice.
If you believe that your life is already mapped out and that no matter what you do it won't make any difference then you are right.

3. Tell yourself how unlucky you are and feel miserable.
Focus on your problems all the time and feel sorry for yourself it will guarantee that you stay miserable.

4. Drift along aimlessly and never prioritise.

5. Have no fun, don't laugh and never smile.

A poem of self worth

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A Message from Noelyne...

Here's another poem recommendation from Jopi - Journey of a survivor blog.  http://jopi-movingon.blogspot.com/

Part VII - Eurydice by H.D.

At least I have the flowers of myself,

and my thoughts, no god

can take that;

I have the fervour of myself for a presence

and my own spirit for light;

and my spirit with its loss

knows this;

though small against the black,

small against the formless rocks,

hell must break before I am lost;

before I am lost,

hell must open like a red rose

for the dead to pass.

Powerful!

Enjoy the process of life, 

Noelyne Jones

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Learning Life Lessons

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I've just finished reading a blog created by someone who attended one of my Get Successful courses and she refers to a poem by Veronica Shoffstall.  'After a while'.  It's an amazing poem about learning life lessons.

After a While
By Veronica Shoffstall

After a while you learn the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul,

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and
company doesn't mean security,

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises,

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head
up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult,
not the grief of a child,

And you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if
you get too much.

So plant your own garden and decorate your own
soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring your
flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure...

That you really are strong,

And you really do have worth.

******

Amazing!

Noelyne Jones

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Too Much Stress

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Are you feeling stressed?  Anxious? Irritated? Out of sorts with yourself and your life?  You probably have too much going on at once.  Too many problems happening at the same time.  Too many things that are causing you concern.  Financial concerns, relationship issues, keeping up with the household chores, children misbehaving.....

When a problem presents itself on it's own you can normally handle the situation.  When too many problems happen at once or there's a build up of things that it gets out of control and you start to lose the plot.  Some pressure is good for you as it keeps you motivated and keeps life interesting.  Stops you from getting bored.  However, when you have too much pressure then it can be a problem.  The amount of stress that you deal with increases which has an adverse effect on your health.  Your emotional and physical state deteriorates and you feel out of control.  Relationships suffer and it's downhill from there.

Recognising when this is happening is the first step to handling the situation.  Once you are aware of what's happening you can take responsibility for change.  Review what's happening and make a plan for the action that you need to take.  Ask for help, talk to someone.  Don't suffer on your own.

It will be worth it in the end,

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Afraid to Commit in case you Fail?

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One of the major limiting factors that I see in many of the people who I work with in one to one coaching and workshops is their fear of committing to their goals.  A fear of committing to the action that is necessary to ensure theyu achieve their goals.  Why do people do this?  Mainly it's due to a fear of failure.  You are afraid to commit  in case you fail so you don't really commit as you can't face the prospect of failing.

Most people I meet live in their comfort zone most of the time, doing things they know how to do easily.  The problem with this is that you don't reach your true potential.  You don't stretch yourself so you don't develop.  You need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.  Make it a part of your daily list of things to do.

Learn to trust yourself and know that you can handle whatever happens.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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What is Making you Feel Sad?

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You have what you want in life yet you still feel down in the dumps and sad.  The muscles in your face seem to be stuck in miserable mode and they are too heavy to lift.  You struggle to bring a smile to your face.  You know you should feel happy and thankful for all that you have.  An attitude of gratitude is the best one to have but right now you really can't be doing with feeling thankful.  You just want to be sad and fed up.  Does this sound familiar?  How often does this happen for you?  Daily, weekly, every month or is it seasonal?

How to Overcome the Dumps

1.  Sit down and work out what it is that causing you to choose to feel this way.  What exactly are you sad or unhappy about?  Get curious about your emotional state.  Write all of the things that are bothering you on a piece of paper.  You will probably have quite a few things some important and others insignificant.  Just let the pen flow.

2.  Next write all the things you are happy about in your life.

3.  What would you like to happen today? Choose two things that you would like the universe to provide for you today and then release your request.

4. Go about your daily tasks.

The thinsg that were bringing you down won't seem so important now.  Any that are important need to be on your list of things to do today.  Make a plan and get to it.  If they are not important cross them off your list and stop allowing them to get you down.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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You are loved

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Noelyne Jones

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Don't be afraid to ask for what you want

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Another great video from Jack Cranfield.  How often have you stopped yourself from asking for what you want for fear of what the other person might do or say?  How many times have you not spoken up about your own needs for fear of upsetting someone?



Start asking for what you want now. If not now, when? How much longer are you prepared to put off having the life that you want?

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Getting Over a Difficult Situation

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In this video Jack Canfield explains the importance of thinking about what you have done well, your successes rather than the things that didn't go well.  He suggests keeping a Victory Log, something that I recommend to my clients although I call it a Success Log or Diary.  Same principle.  It's great for raising your confidence and boosting self-esteem too.



Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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What are you waiting for?

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I've just heard this quote and think it's great.  'You can't hire other people to do your push ups for you'.  Jim Rohn

Do you sit around wishing for luck and good fortune to come your way?  Do you hope that someone will come along to sort all your problems and make you happy?  Guess what?  The only person who can make these things happen is you.

Decide what you want, make a plan and move!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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How do you react if someone over steps your boundaries or makes an inappropriate comment towards you?   Do you feel anxious or awkward?  Do you get upset inside and tight lipped?  Does your jaw clench together?

Do you ignore your body and feel shocked by someone’s poor behaviour that you fail to address it?  Do you swallow your anger and suppress your feelings?  Do you remain silent and then end up giving yourself a hard time for not answering back or saying something?

If someone is nasty or rude to you and you fail to take action, you give other people permission to treat you badly.   Doing this will eat away at your self esteem and will often lead you feeling resentful and hurt.

Do you feel really uncomfortable in speaking up?  Were you taught that keeping your mouth shut was in fact a safer option?  Do you fail to speak up because you fear the other person will think badly of you or they may end up hurting their feelings?  Well what about your own feelings?  If you are too sensitive to other people’s feelings, you are actually being insensitive to your own.   Standing up for yourself and using you voice is a great way to empower yourself and show other people how you deserve to be treated.


Would you like to feel confident and speak up the next time someone says something to you that is unacceptable?  Check out my on-line Personal Development Programme, guaranteed to help you set your boundaries and stop anyone crossing them ever again.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Decision Making Technique

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One of my Coaching Associates Lisa Phillips of Amazing Coaching uses the following technique with her clients when they are stuck and finding it difficult to make a decision and I thought you would find it useful particularly in relationships with other people for example, at work.

Change, Accept or Walk Away?

CHANGE.
Is it possible to CHANGE the situation?    What options are available for change?

ACCEPT.

Is it possible to accept the situation?  What options were available to acceptance?

WALK AWAY?

Is the situation so bad that you need to walk away? In a work context, do you need to find a different job?

One of the beneficial things about this process is that it can force you to take responsibility and get out of blame mode.    Try it the next time you need to resolve an issue!

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Is your past holding you back?

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Do you continue to punish yourself for things which have happened in the past?  Do you carry bad feelings around with you like painful baggage for years and years?  Do you deny yourself the life you truly deserve because you believe you don’t deserve good things?

Many of the people I work with in my coaching practice come to me because they want to be more successful, more confident and get what they want in life.  And I can guarantee that for each one it will be something from their past that is holding them back.  Is your past holding you back?

To be successful you need to let go of your past and start with a clean slate for today, in order to have a fantastic new future.   It’s just like planting a new garden – you have to remove some of the debris, stones and old weeds. 'Getting rid of the old to make room for the new'.  Then start planting seeds.

In my achiever's club I have lessons dedicate to letting go of the past.  Part of this is forgiving yourself and others for past events.  Doing this will make it much easier to move forward into the future. It helps you to build a solid new foundation to create the life you truly want to live.    It's not easy to create the wonderful new life you desire if you are holding on to past experiences and resentment for what has happened.  When you focus on painful relationships, broken agreements and unresolved issues you are reliving those feelings and allowing the past to exist now.

If you don’t clean up your past and make peace with it you cause emotions such as hopelessness, resentment, sarcasm, cynicism, loneliness, or emptiness.

Are you so attached to what happened in the past that you really don’t want to let it go?  Perhaps it is because you have longed for some resolution, an apology or a different outcome.  And so, instead of letting go and moving on, you choose to hold onto your pain, your grudges as you don’t want to give up on what you believe you are owed.  The problem with this approach is that if you need someone else to do something before you have closure, there is a good chance that you will never get it!  The other person probably moved on long ago and is creating a new life for themselves.  By holding on to past resentment you are continuing to allow the other person to have power over you.  The only person who suffers is you.  Are you giving this person the power to rule your life?

Holding onto your past is like collecting news paper articles from 10, 20,30, years ago and carrying them with you wherever you go.  Would you choose to read these newspapers every day going over each upsetting story in your head over and over again? Would you carry these papers with you from job to job, relationship to relationship? Would you repeat the stories in these newspapers to your friends over and over again?
If you would like to know more about letting go of your past why not check out my Achievers club here

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Quick update

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I'm looking forward to spending time at home over the next few weeks.  The Training contract that I have been involved with since beginning of January has taken me away from home with overnight stays.  I've enjoyed the work so it was not too much of a hardship and I knew it was only for a short time.

However, it's going to be soooo good getting back to family life.  You tend to lose the connection with your nearest and dearest.  Things happen while you are away that you miss.  You have been in a different world, staying in hotels, mingling with business people, far away from the daily habits of family life.  Having a meal together can seem strange particularly if 'your' seat is now occupied by one of the teenagers.

I've already made a start by cleaning the whole house....yes that's another thing that rarely stays how you like it, particularly with three men in the house.  It's also my way of refocusing on domesticity rather than business.

So I'm off to cook the evening meal, much to the relief of the teens as they don't care much for processed food.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Not sure why you're doing something

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Have you ever started something because your instinct tells you it's the right thing to do? And then 10 years later you look back and realised the true value if that decision.

I'm delivering training courses for achievement of a ILM First Line Manager Award qualification. Some of the participants are not sure why they are there. It just seemed like a good idea. It prompted me to share that I completed an NVQ in Management at level 4 in the early 90's. It was the start of a journey to many qualifications, which I am convinced have given me the edge when applying for contracts. Qualifications are important and give an indication of the quality and standard to be expected.

So continue with your learning as you never know how it may benefit you later on.

Enjoy the process of life

Noelyne Jones

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When did you last learn something new

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I have made a career in Personal development as I'm passionate about it and have been since I was a child. I was the one who loved to revise so that I could do well in exams. I loved pouring out my knowledge onto an exam paper. It still amazes me that I didn't get into a training role until I was 38. My personal development journey started long before then. Friends laughed at my references to the most recent self help book.

It continues to this day my passion for personal development, taking on new challenges, the odd calculated risk and the continuing reference to books. Most recently Stephen Coveys 7Habits. Although I've been using the habits for many years. Another favourite is Louise Hay, You can heal your life.

Anyway when was the last time that you invested time in you? To attend a training course? Learn a new skill? Get a qualification?

Are you the best that you can be? Are you achieving your full potential? In these increasingly challenging and competitive times you need to keep your skills and qualifications up to date.

Enjoy the process of life

Noelyne Jones

Feeling rejected?

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I have been delivering a two day training course to prepare people for the new role they are about to take.  It's part of the recruitment process and a requirement to attend prior to a contract being issued.  On the last in a series of events one of the participants shared with me that she was a last minute delegate as she had been on a reserve list.

During the course she commented that the pace was slow as she was used to a very busy working environment.  I immediately sensed that she was still feeling upset about not having been selected at the start of the recruitment.  She continued to make comments about the fact that she was a reserve throughout the two days.  On chatting to her she had assumed that her experience in a similar role 10 years ago would be enough to make her successful.  She also felt rejected.

It's an example of making assumptions and then holding on to unresourceful emotions i.e. the disappoitment or anger of being rejected.

It transpired that five other people on the course were also on the reserve list.  I would not have known by looking at them.  It was not an issue for them and they were just very happy to be called forward for the job.


Things don't always turn out how we expect and there's normally a lesson to be learnt.  The next time you feel rejected look for the lesson that you need to learn.  What do you need to do differently?  What other options are there?

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Tired of not feeling content with your life?

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Are you happy with your life? Do you live happily no matter what happens? No matter what you have or haven't got?

Or do you live wishing things were different of better? Do you live your life feeling unsettled and anxious because things aren't quite how you want them to be?

Do you wish your house was bigger or in a different location? Do you wish you could give up work or go part time? Are you unhappy with your health and energy levels?

If you are unhappy or unsettled with what you have now then it's highly likely that you will still be unhappy and unsettled when you get what you think will make you happy and settled.

Learn to be happy and settled with who and where you are now. Don't put off being happy until a future date. If you do then it will stay there i.e in the future.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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