Overcoming Yesterdays Poor Result!

 

A Message from Noelyne....

Of course the poor result depends on whether you are Welsh or English.  My partner's son couldn't understand my reason for waving an inflatable daffodil at the TV screen last night.  As it happened it didn't work as Wales threw away the game by some rather stupid behaviour.  One action, i.e. tripping an opposing player up illegally had the knock on effect of giving away 17 points.  Too many mistakes later meant it was an English victory.  To cap it all my daffodil has sprung a leek, just to please my partner's son!

One person's actions affected the hopes and aspirations of a whole team and nation.  So grand slam or six nations for Wales are now history for 2010.  There's no going back, you can't change the past.  I'd like to believe that the player concerned will learn from his actions.

What can you learn from this?

• Think carefully about your action, even when under pressure, particularly when the stakes are high and other people are involved
• Let go of the outcome
• Learn from your mistake and do something different next time

I watched The Godfather Part 2 for the first time afterwards, to take my mind off the disappointment, whilst my daffodil slowly wilted discarded on the floor.

All the best,

Noelyne Jones

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Avoid getting distracted

 

A Message from Noelyne....

Hello,

I encourage my clients to focus on one thing at a time.  When you decide to take action it's important to focus your attention on the activities that will ensure you achieve your end goal.  Once you are successful you can move on to something else.  I found myself yesterday getting into bad habits again.  I am easily distracted by the myriad of opportunities that exist in the Universe.  It's like a sweetie shop and I get very excited at the prospect of starting something new and challenging, so much so that in the past I have spread myself too thinly with too many projects started and not enough finished.  I've disciplined myself to focus on one thing at a time and my success has grown exponentially.

Old habits die hard though and yesterday a business assoiciate contacted me with a very exciting project that he would like me to get involved with and I immediately wanted to say Yes.  Thankfully the advice that I give my clients popped into my head as I am currently designing and building my on-line membership site, which I am exteremely excited about as its going to contain some fabulous advice and activities.  I'll be announcing it all here in my blog so you will be the first to know about it.

Once my membership site is up and running smoothly I will have more time to start another project.

In the meantime I'll research this other opportunity and gather my facts first before launching straight into it, like I have in the past and then regretted my decision.  It's fair on everyone that way. There's always something else on the horizon and plenty for everyone.  In the past I was fearful of missing out on opportunities however, I now know how abundant the Universe is.

Awesome!

Enjoy the process of life.

Noelyne Jones

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Computers can be frustrating

Hello,

I love the power of computers and what you can achieve with one.  The internet is phenomenal and I am constantly amazed at how speedily progress has been made since I bought my first Sinclair ZX Spectrum and joined a local computer programming course to learn binary programming.  I didn't get very far with it!

There are times though like yesterday afternoon when I had so many applications open and then my security scan started and everything froze, that I get very frustrated.  I wound myself up, in fact computers are one of the few things that have that ability.  I totally forgot to blog and I had set myself a target of doing it every day.  Having said that I complete my Newsletter for one of my other businesses.  And I did blog on my Health and Happiness blog.  Need to stop being so hard on myself.

Anyway I was up and 5.30 am and I've now done all the things I didn't do yesterday.  Ready to spend the day shopping with a friend and then get the beers in for the Rugby.  England v Wales at Twickenham.  I've got my blow up...yellow daffodil ready.  Yes I'm Welsh!

Ain't life grand.

All the best!

Noelyne Jones
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How to Overcome a Fear of Failure

A Message from Noelyne...

Overcoming a Fear of Failure

How many times have you not taken action because you are afraid that you might not get it right?  Do you keep putting things off because you need more information or whatever you are doing needs a little more work?  Do you always want to be perfect at what you are about to do even though you've never done it before?  And then bottled out at the last minute for fear of looking foolish?  Or that you might make a mistake?

Sound familiar?  It brings back vivid memories for me.  I always wanted to be the best at everything I decided to do.  The problem was that for many years I stopped myself from taking opportunities because I didn't want to fail, didn't feel quite ready.  My fear of failure would take over and I would bottle out.  I would not put myself forward in case someone laughed at me.  Of course, now I realise that by doing that I was not learning and growing.  I stoppped myself from learning from experience.

When I read Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway I started to realise that it's OK to make mistakes and that in fact if you are not making mistakes you are doing something wrong.  It's when we make mistakes that we learn the most.  Think back over your life to the times when you grew and developed most as a person.  I am sure that it will be the times when things were not going as well as you would like, the failures, the challenging times.

So give yourself permission to make loads of mistakes so that you can learn and grow.

In fact I recommend you remove the word failure from your vocabulary.  Ok so it didn't quite turn out how you wanted, so what?  It's the Universes way of giving you feedback on the action you have taken.  maybe you need to change direction or try a different approach.  Get over it, learn from what happened and move on!  Sounds harsh doesn't it however, it's much more fun than living life not taking action because you might fail.  There's no fun in that, trust me.  I've got the T-shirt!

Overcome Your Fear of Failure by taking action and seeing what happens.

Whatever you do, Enjoy the Process!

Noelyne Jones

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Favourite Websites

 

A Message from Noelyne.......

Here are some of my favourite websites:

A world of Adventure

www.tut.com

www.businessballs.com

www.wddty.com

www.quotationspage.com

www.stumbleupon.com 

www.facebook.com/noelynejones

www.twitter.com/noelynejones

Click on the links to find out more about them

Enjoy clicking, 

Noelyne Jones

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My Favourite Personal Development Books

A Message from Noelyne......

There has been a phenomenal increase in the number of books available aimed at helping you with some problem, pain or goal you want to achieve.  When I first started getting interested in Personal Development in the 1990's you would be lucky to find one shelf full in Waterstone's.  The other day whilst enjoying a coffee in Border's I glanced up at the Self Help section which covered 5 columns and 5 shelves in each column.  Where do you start?  

The way I used to purchase books was to go and browse and then see what 'jumped out' at me.  Which one caught my eye or attention.  It was normally the right book for me at that moment in time.  Nowadays I tend to be a little more focused and buy books to move me forward with a particular topic for example, one of my most recent is by Robert Cialdini - Influence - The Psychology of Persuasion.  It's a work in progress!

So I thought I would list my top ten personal development/most influential books:

Living Your Best Life - Laura Berman Fortgang
You can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway - Susan Jeffers
The Life Coaching Handbook - Curly Martin
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra
Awaken the Giant Within - Anthony Robbins
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen R. Covey
Rich Dad Poor Dad - Robert Kiasaki
Think and Grow Rich - Napolean Hill
The Speed of Trust - Stephen M R Covey


Oh and The Science of Getting Rich is worth taking a look at too.


Of course there are countless more.  One way to decide which one to start with is to work out exactly what you want to know?  What's your problem?  What do you want to learn?  What are you looking to solve?


I'll share some of my favourite internet sites soon too.


Enjoy reading and learning and if you get stuck contact me and I'll get you unstuck, 


Enjoy the process!


Noelyne Jones


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Overcoming a Fear of Rejection

 

A Message from Noelyne....

How often have you stopped yourself from taking action for fear of rejection by the other person?  You want to ask them but are afraid they might say 'No' and you can't face the thought of that.  So instead you don't do whatever it takes to find out, choosing to stay in the dark and at least not have to face that horrible feeling of rejection.  You carry on living in your comfort zone wondering what might have been.  I want to share a story with you which puts things into perspective.  This is taken from a CD produced by Dr. Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra, two of my favourite personal development experts.

Dr. Dyer's son attended his first dance at the age of 14.  His father eager to find out about how and if he had handled rejection asked him 'Did you dance with any girls?' 'Yes' came the reply. 'Did you ask any girls to dance who said 'No'?  The son thought for a moment and then said 'Yes there was one who refused'.  Dad then asked 'How did you feel about that?' 'Well, I wasn't dancing with her before I asked and I wasn't dancing with her afterwards, so nothing had changed'.

Wow, what a way to deal with rejection.  It's all about not being attached to the outcome and not taking things personally.  Stop taking life so seriously and lighten up.

So go out and ask that question!  What have you got to lose?  What could you gain?

If something is important to you then you will do whatever it takes to make it happen.  If you want to know more about how to handle whatever happens in life then sign up for my Free Special Report which starts off the process for you.

Here's to a wonderful carefree life, 

Noelyne Jones

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