Overcome your Disappointment

Disappointment means that you are feeling let down or that you are going to miss out on something for ever. A goal you have had is probably not going to happen. Maybe someone has not lived up to your expectations.

This is a much more destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly

The solution
• What can you learn from this situation?
• Set a new goal that is even more inspiring
• Maybe you are judging too soon
• It may not be over and you may just need to be patient

If you are constantly feeling disappointed then you would benefit from some one to one coaching.

Know that you can handle whatever happens.

Noelyne

Feeling frustrated?

Overcome your frustration by recognising that this emotion is telling you that you could be doing better than you currently are. This is another easy one. You are probably nearly where you want to be but something keeps eluding you.

The solution
• Realise that frustration is good as it tells you that you need to change your approach, find another way of learning or achieving your goal. This is great for personal growth.

Remember to enjoy getting curious and overcoming the negative emotions.

All the best,

Noelyne

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Overcome your anger

If you have ever felt angry then you know what effect it can have on your body and the people around you. When you feel Anger I guarantee that a rule or standard that you hold in your life has been violated by someone else.

Every person has their own set of rules based on their upbringing, beliefs, religion, education and life experiences. Where two people do not know each others rules then it can lead to conflict.

The solution
• You could have misinterpreted the situation and perhaps the person does not know about your standards.
• Remember that even if the person did violate one of your standards, your ‘rules’ are not necessarily right.
• Ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this situation?’ How can I communicate my rule so that they don’t do it again?

If you want to know more about overcoming your anger then e-mail me for more infromation.

All the best,

Noelyne

Feeling Hurt?

Another emotion that can be quite debilitating is Hurt. When you feel hurt it normally means that you have an expectation that has not been met. Often other people are involved.

Anthony Robbins in his book ‘Awaken the Giant Within’ states that ‘Hurt often dominates human relationships. Feelings of hurt are usually generated by a sense of loss. You normally feel hurt as a result of having an expectation of someone else that has not been met.’

The solution
• Ask yourself ‘Is this person really trying to hurt me? Maybe they don’t realise the impact of their actions on your life.
• Re-evaluate the situation and ask yourself ‘Am I judging too harshly?’
• A third solution could be to communicate your feeling of loss to the person. For example: - ‘The other day when x-y-z happened, I misinterpreted that to mean that you didn’t care, and I have a sense of loss. Can you clarify for me what really happened?’

I have tried this and it works. I found that the hurt disappears in a matter of moments.

So overcome feeling hurt and take action now. Life is too short to be held back by emotions that may be as a result of a misunderstanding.

Noelyne

How to overcome your fear and anxiety

The next of the emotions that can keep us stuck is Fear, Low level concern, Anxiety, Worry.  I'm not talking about panic attacks, high level fears and phobias.  These fears are much more deep rooted and often as a result of some trauma earlier in your life.  I deal with using Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques. The fear and anxiety I am referring to in this post are those daily worries, niggles or sixth sense telling you that all is not quite right for you.  They can keep you stuck if you allow them to and can grow out of all proportion if you don't act to resolve the feelings.  Luckily these fears, low level concerns and anxiety can be turned into a positive resource and can be easily overcome.  These fears, concerns, worries are telling you that something is going to happen soon that you need to prepare for. 

The solution

• Review what you are feeling fearful about and evaluate what you must do to prepare yourself.
• Figure out what actions you need to take to deal with the situation in the best possible way.

Remember to use your negative emotions and turn them into positives. They are your body's way of alerting you to something you need to do. Don't let the negatives stop you from moving forward. You can overcome them.

Get curious!

Noelyne

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Overcome your emotions - Discomfort

The first of the emotions that can hold us back from taking action is Discomfort. When you feel discomfort it normally means that something is not quite right. Maybe you are not getting the results that you want.

The great thing about this feeling is that it is easy to resolve.

The solution
• Firstly put yourself into a good state. If you are not sure how to do this the following exercise will help. Relax all tension from your body and muscles starting from your toes and work upwards , smile and yawn and have a good stretch.
Now that you are feeling calm move onto the next point.
• Clarify what it is that you do want.
• Refine your actions

Life does not have to be complicated and I do like to keep things simple.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

What do our emotions tell us?

Do you avoid emotions particularly the painful ones? Do you ignore the feelings within you hoping it will all go away? Perhaps you enjoy feeling negative and full of self-pity about what life has done to you? Maybe you are scared to really experience the full range of emotions from utter despair and despondency to the heights of passion and joy?

If you really want to make your life work you must make your emotions work for you. Emotions are our signal to tell us how we are feeling about what’s happening around us. They help us make sense of where we are and the decisions we have made so far and what action we need to take as a result.

So what creates emotions? You do, you are the source. So many people either suppress emotions or drive them out of their life yet emotions are one of life’s precious resources.

Do you wait for certain experiences in order to feel the emotions you desire? What if you could feel any way you choose at any moment in time? Well you can with a little thought and practise.

I want you to recognise what emotion you are feeling, think about what it is telling you so that you are ready to take action to change.

I'll be letting you know what each emotion is telling you over the next few days.

Enjoy getting curious,
Noelyne