How to Easily Overcome Your Fears in less than 10 minutes

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Lets clarify what I mean by fears.  One dictionary definition states 'be afraid or feel anxious or apprehensive about a possible or probable situation or event; "I fear she might get aggressive".'
It's a combination of a feeling and thought that you have about an unknown situation based on your belief or preconceptions of what might happen in the future.  It can be based on a previous bad experience or from listening to others

In some situations the feeling of fear that you get is an instinctive response to a threatening situation, your intuition telling you that something is not right and that you need to be wary or even remove yourself from the situation. Sometimes described as the fight or flight response.  This is a positive use for fear as it protects you from harm.

The fear I want to consider in this article is the feeling or emotion that causes you to decide not to take action.  The sort of fear that gets in the way of you becoming all that you can be e.g. not applying for a new job, not speaking up for yourself at a meeting, not putting forward your ideas at home or work, not confronting someone about a problem they have caused, not volunteering to do a presentation for your employer... It's an adverse emotion that stops you moving forward and getting  the life that you really want.

The great thing is that once you admit that you are afraid it's quite easy to overcome those fears.

The first thing you need to do is:

Believe that you can overcome your fears!

This is vital to your success.  If you believe that you can’t overcome your fears then guess what? You won’t!  Your beliefs about yourself and your life create the life that you have.  What you believe to be true affects you every day and minute of your life.  If you are holding back or not being as successful as you would like to be it will be due to a belief that you have about the situation or yourself.

The awesome thing is that a belief can be changed.

So what is a belief? 

Beliefs are thoughts that you hold to be true about yourself and your life.  There are many beliefs that we all hold which will be the same for example, I believe that the sun rises and sets every day.  I believe that water evaporates to form clouds which rise over mountains and causes rain to fall.  These are the sort of beliefs that will not change. 

Where do beliefs come from?

Your beliefs are formed as a result of your education, your religion, your parents, your experiences, the media and many more.  Each individual person has very different upbringing and experiences which makes you who you are.  Each individual will have different beliefs and a different view of the world and depending on the experiences, these beliefs could be positive and resourceful or negative and un-resourceful.

Which of the following two possible beliefs do you think is more likely to result in a positive confident outgoing successful person?
1. ‘It’s a big wide scary world out there full of people out to manipulate and scheme against you and grab your money’. Or
2. ‘It’s a fantastic world filled with an abundance of opportunity and supportive people’. 

If you don't get that it's 2. then this article is not for you.

Lets assume that you have accepted that your fear is holding you back and that you believe that you can overcome your fears.

You are now ready to move to the next level.

The Power of your thoughts

The thought of doing whatever it is that you want to do is often far worse than the reality.  Think about a time when you nearly didn't do something because of how afraid, sick or fearful you felt.  Did it turn out to be as bad as you thought? 
The majority of the time it won't be.  If it does at least you can make an informed decision based on experience rather than just your thoughts as to whether you wish to proceed with that course of action.

The thought that you have is normally based on your preconception of what might happen.  Your mind starts to go into protective mode and imagine all sorts of negative outcomes all aimed at keeping you safe and in your comfort zone. 
This of course is quite acceptable if you want to stay where you are doing the same old thing day after day.

To get what you want in life, to grow and improve you need to learn to overcome that feeling of fear and go out and do it. 
To do this you need to become aware of the negative thoughts and then change them. Instead of thinking that everything will go pear shaped so there's no point in giving it a go, you need to imagine a positive outcome, the outcome that you really want. 

For example, you have been asked to make a presentation at a conference and you know that it is a great opportunity however, your fear of public speaking stops you from accepting.  The pictures you have in your mind currently are you standing up on stage stuttering, sweating profusely, tripping over the wires, the powerpoint not working etc etc. So much so that you decide not to do it. 

A colleague with far less experience than you accepts, does a reasonable job and gets promoted as a result!  How do you feel now!
Do you think this person didn't feel any fear?  Most people do and that's quite normal, it's telling you that you need to prepare.
Part of that preparation is imagining yourself standing on stage speaking clearly, confidently and making a very effective  presentation. Imagine the smiles and applause.  Imagine feeling fantastic. 

Obviously there are other things that you need to do to achieve the end goal.  However, having a positive mindset at the outset will guarantee a good result.

If things don't go as well as you imagined that's OK too.  Don't beat yourself up!.  Celebrate completing the task and overcoming your fears  You can review and learn from the experience, get some feedback, do more research and then give it another go.  You learn from the experience and plan to do it better next time.

If you are worried about what other people will think of you if you make a mistake...don't be!  People soon forget, they are much more interested in their own problems and fears.  And anyway people tend to remember the first impression they get of you, which is created in the first 30 seconds of meeting someone for the first time.  I can show you how to make a god first impression too for more information check out my blog via the link below.

Most of all start to enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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Do what you love to do.

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I used to love to play tennis at school although didn't take it seriously as I was more interested in Netball and Athletics.  On leaving school I decided to join the local tennis club however, it didn't last long as I didn't feel as though I fitted in, a bit clicquey.  That was 31 years ago!

In January I made the decision to reduce my business mileage and concentrate on building my home based business.  It's been one of the best decisions I've made this year.  Not only do I feel happier in myself I am no longer shattered from driving quite ridiculous distances.  As a result I am building my life here in Oundle.

I've just joined the Oundle Tennis club and have been out on the court a couple of times.  I'm very rusty as it's 31 years since I picked up a tennis racket however, it's so much fun.  I'm meeting new people who live lcoally and everyone seems very pleasant no clicques yet.....

It feels so good to be planning weekly things for me outside of my business life.  Next week I'm planning to start a Pilates class locally.  I so enjoyed doing Pilates on holiday, although the view I had there was quite spectacular, imagine standing under a canopy facing out to sea, the sun gently bathing the surroundings, spring flowers, the aroma from the jasmine....quite something.  I'll just have to imagine I'm back there when I join the new class here in Oundle.  Which reminds me I need to sign up.

Be happy doing what you love to do

Health and happiness always,

Noelyne Jones

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Overcoming challenges on holiday

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Towards the end of a recent holiday to Turkey we discovered that all flights back to the UK were cancelled due to the Volcanic Ash Cloud produced by the erupting Ielandic volcano.  This presented us with the challenge of overcoming some obstacles.  For example, we were unable to contact any of the emergency numbers due to the phone lines being engaged or going straight to answer machine.  This was of course frustrating and created anxiety.  It's the not knowing what's happening, the fear of the unknown and the consequences of the fact that we could not get home in time to keep commitments.

To overcome our fear and anxiety my partner and I helped each other through these first couple of days by dicussing options and expressing any fears and doubts we had.  This helped tremedously.  We did as much as we could to overcome the adversity and to resolve the situation.  However, eventually we resigned ourselves to sitting tight until it was time to check out of the hotel.  About 8 hours later we received a message that our flight operator had tried to contact us at the hotel.  This was a huge relief as we realised that someone did know about us.  The nervousness and difficulties of the previous two days started to dissipate.

On speaking with the company rep we were even more relieved to discover that the flight operator were more than happy to accommodate us in one of their hotels nearer the airport to await confirmation of the return flight.  In one phone call and with new information we had overcome the difficulties of being stranded in a foriegn country.  So that day the next stage of our holiday/ return to the UK commenced.  Our original transfer taxi dropped us off at the new hotel and we settled in.  We felt so grateful and gave thanks for our very good fortune.  Reports on the TV were coming through thick and fast about other people's misfortune and struggles to return home.

Then followed days of waiting for information, checking with the reps regularly and generally making the most of the situation.  Calls and messages to the UK had been made to cancel appointments and training courses, so minimising the effect on others.

What was very surprising was the number of people in the Hotel who complained about the situation, saying that more needed to be done to get them home.  They complained to the Reps who in my opinion did an exceptional job of keeping us informed in difficult times.

We were just happy to be safe, in a wonderful country, plenty of food, lovely hotel and exceptional views.  The sun shone every day, so we just relaxed and enjoyed our good fortune.

I did learn a few other things as a result of being stranded.

• check holiday insurance thoroughly so you are clear on what is and isn't covered
• make sure you know how to access important accounts such as bank accounts, in case you need to pay bills, transfer money etc.
• if you run a business make sure you can access important information whilst abroad, take a laptop if poss or a portable memory stick/back disk
• automate your business as much as possible
• take extra medication/important supplements that you are unable to get abroad
• Have fun no matter what!

In these situations you need to accept that things are outside your control.  By all means do whatever you can to improve your situation however, sometimes you just have to accept that you have done all you can.  Then it's time to sit back and relax.  Worrying and getting stressed out or complaining will not help the situation.

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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How to Be all You Can Be - 10 Questions to Ask Yourself

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"What Really Makes You Tick?" 10 questions you should ask to yourself: a preparation to self-improvement

How to Be all You Can Be. 

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Finding something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement.

2. Should I really change?
Only you can be the judge of that.  Be the change that you wish to see.  When you change it's amazing how the people around you change.  So if you perceive a problem in someone in your life, first look at yourself and consider where you need to change.  Make the changes and then notice how the problem in the other person disappears.

3. What's the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening there seems to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. If it's a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see where it might take you!

4. Am I comfortable with what I'm doing?
If not, then open your eyes to the opportunity and abundance around you. Try something new.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you'll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It's an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life! Be Happy with what you have now and you will attract even more happiness.

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don't have an answer to that, but that doesn't mean I can't try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such thing as too much or too little, it's more on how badly you really want it.  When you have a burning desire for something, puts lots of energy into getting it, magic will happen.

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It's an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that motivate and it varies from person to person.  You know yourself best and what makes you tick so work out what your motivators are. It's not like you can't have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that's it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be...and that thought it itself may seem very difficult and can cause you to give up before you even start that journey.  Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo,   it's about your emotional attachment to the outcome.  How much do you really really want it?

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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A Spot of Self-improvement Humour from Woody Allen

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"Life With Woody" 10 inspirational quotes than can improve yourself

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. "Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons." It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn't have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. "I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it's the government." 'Nuff said.

3. "There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?" This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life's little problems isn't all that bad, until 'he' shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you're talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. "Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions." And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. "A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said 'no'." It sounds, 'practical', I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn't involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. "Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats." I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. "I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens." If it rains, it pours.

8. "I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose." It could get worse when you're guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans." At least he doesn't smite us with lightning, and I'm thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can't seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we're religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. "The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have."
Enjoy!

Until next time,

Noelyne Jones

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The Right Way to Set and Achieve Your Goals

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The Right Way to Set and Achieve Your Goals

People set their goals differently, depending on their current situation, resources, physical capacity and other
factors. You can, however, follow some guidelines to make sure that your goals are credible and possible. Too many individuals set their goals too high unknowingly, only to lose and get disappointed for life. Here are some tips for you.

Being Specific

Goals need to be specific, so that you know which part of the process you're currently in and the particular ways on how you will achieve it. Most people have goals to get promoted, get rich, improve relationship and the like, but these are very vague and your mind can become confused about what you truly mean. General descriptions usually do not have boundaries, so you always leave room for mistakes and compromise. If you want results that you can be proud of, be specific.

To be specific, you need to include the full details. Write down something like, "I want to get $1 million by October of this year." or "I need to become key supervisor of the sales division by next week." Include the names, the position, the amount, the date and everything else needed to train your mind to start working towards that goal.

Being Measurable

Goals need to be measurable so that you can gauge how well you have done lately. To help measure your paths and goals, you should include measurable details. For your job, you can include details such as the number of hours you're working, the amount you're earning, the staff you're handling, etc. For the goal of money, you can include details such as the amount you want to have as a whole, the number of companies or businesses you own, your contact persons, etc. Always have things and items to be measured so you can understand how close you are to getting your goals. If your goal is to earn $100,000 a month, then you know you're halfway there if you're already earning $50,000 a month.

Being Attainable and Realistic

Only set goals that can possibly be accomplished. Some people set goals that are too high to reach, that they are almost setting up things that are impossible. Make sure you only set objectives that you can reach within a given amount of time, provided the current resources and capabilities you have. Some examples of impossible goals are doubling your salary overnight, getting a promotion higher than your boss's position, etc. Some goals can be achieved faster compared to others if you have some strengths and paths to back these up. Always include a strategic plan for big objectives.

Time-Bound

Set deadlines to achieve your goals or else you'll never going to finish anything. Stay specific when setting timelines and schedules. For example, indicate things like "To spend an hour with my wife everyday starting tomorrow (indicate exact date and year)". Setting the exact time and date will spur you to start working on your goals, instead of putting it off for another available time. Some goals can take years to accomplish so it is wiser to break these down into smaller objectives, still complete with deadlines. You can finish everything in a sequence to finally reach the biggest one.

Enjoy setting some SMART goals,

Noelyne Jones

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The Right Attitudes to Achieve Your Goals

The Right Attitudes to Achieve Your Goals

If you want to be truly successful in how you achieve your goals, then you need to harbor the right
habits and attitudes that will keep you on track. There are a number of good traits you have to keep for
life to discover that more opportunities and good things are bound to happen, if only you allow these.
Here are some of the features that great people had.

Being Industrious

Hard work always pays off. There is no single famous individual person in history who achieved several
goals in life without working it off. Being industrious means working harder than anyone else, studying
more than anyone else and even suffering more than anyone else. You have to understand the importance of
delayed gratification as you work towards your ultimate goal. To begin hard work, you can begin by fixing
your schedule, writing down tasks and functions of the day and finding the right people and resources that
can assist you. Keep in mind that you have to be as independent as possible to finish more in the long term.

Discipline and Consistency

Discipline is what separates the leaders from the followers. If you truly want to make changes in your
life, you have to understand doing things even if you do not want to at times, and maintaining excellent
quality and optimum performance each time. Being consistent is intertwined with patience, wherein you
continue performing well, regardless of the situations and hindrances, to render the results you want in the end.


Discipline and consistency are also interrelated, in the sense that discipline breeds consistency. If
you continue practicing good habits and sticking to the functions that lead to your main goal, you will
find it easier to do over time. You will change as an entire person and experience the opportunities that
come with being dedicated.

Resilience

Problems are a part of every man's life, but it is the resilient person who always prevails and achieves
their goals. You need to learn from your past mistakes and convert these into more productive actions the
next time. Learn to pick yourself up after each fall and put in double effort to become better. Some of the
most successful people, as well as those who truly left a mark in history are known to have faced big difficulties
and resentment before they let others understand their own way of doing things.

Optimism

You need to stay positive about your situation, regardless of the problems that you face. It is vital that you
stay optimistic and always believe that you will get to your goal, no matter what. If you tell yourself that you
will reach it sooner, chances are you will. It might help to believe in the powers of the Universal Law of Attraction
which draws opportunities toward you just the way you intend to, and in the right intensity as you desired.

Patience

Some goals are very big and will take time to accomplish. Do not allow yourself to think that some goals are just
too huge to be possible. Be specific and set goals that are attainable to your current situation and start working
to achieve these. You can break it down into smaller tasks that are much easier to do within the given timeframe
that you have.