Afraid to let go?

If you found yesterdays exercise of letting go a challenge then take a look at what the reason might be. Who or what are you afraid to let go of? Do you really have any control over it?

The only thing you can control in life is yourself, your own behaviour, decisions, choices etc. After that the outcome or result is often dependant on other people. You can influence other people to make decisions in your favour and to behave towards you in a way that meets your values however, you cannot control another person. It is their decision or choice as to what they do and the way they behave.

If you are afraid to let go what exactly is it that you fear? What does letting go mean to you? When you make decisions based on your values and your goals and take action you will move towards achieve those goals. However, you are unable to control the results so it's important to let go of the outcome.

An example of this would be you control the preparation for an interview and your performance at the interview. Assuming you have done your best you then need to let go of the outcome. It's not your decision. You have done your best to influence the panel however, you might not be the best person for the job. Learn from the experience and move on.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

How to avoid feeling disappointed with what happens

If you want to avoid feeling disappointed with what happens in life then you need to learn to let go of the outcome.  Learning to let go of the outcome is so important. It's amazing what happens when you no longer need whatever it is that you crave or are desperate for. The Universe doesn't like desperate as it puts you in a non-resourceful state and closes you to opportunity. Once you let go the Universe works it's magic.

Give it a go. Admit to yourself that you are desperate for whatever it is that you don't have in your life and then let go of that feeling. It really doesn't matter. Be happy with who and where you are right now. Relax and enjoy the moment. Smile too, it changes your physiology instantly.

I'll cover this subject more tomorrow as I know it's not easy to let go now.

All the best,

Noelyne

Overcoming a Fear of Failure

Why is it that you fear being a failure? Where does that come from? Is it previous experiences? Maybe you've got people around you telling you that you are no good or it won't work out? Do people tell you not to be so stupid? Whose fear exactly are you feeling? Is it your own or other people's limitations?

If you think about it babies and children have no fear of failure? It's a learnt behaviour. At what point do you start to doubt your own ability and feel that you might fail? And anyway what exactly is failure? Who says that whatever you have done is a failure? By whose standards are you judging yourself?

I want you to remove the word failure from your vocabulary. Ok so things may not turn out how you expected and I will be very surprised if they do every time. Look upon it as feedback. Maybe your expectations were too high in the first place and you were setting yourself up to 'fail'. Maybe you needed to do a little more preparation. 'Fail to prepare is to prepare to fail'.

So give yourself a break and go out there and get on with life. Take action and have fun.

Best wishes,

Noelyne

Are you afraid to make mistakes?

I remember a time when I stopped myself from doing things because I was afraid to make a mistake. I needed to practice or be good at whatever it was before I could particpate. Does this sound familiar? It's easier not to do things rather than take action and make a fool of yourself. You stop yourself from joining in for fear of people laughing at you or making fun. The fear of how embarrassing that would feel.

Do you know what? The fear of making a mistake is far worse than actually making a mistake. I am sure you will agree that fear is a thought that creates a sinking horrible unresourceful feeling that stops you in your tracks. The good news is that once you are aware of the thought you can change it! It's that easy.

Think about it.....when did you last make a mistake? What happened? Was it really that bad? What did other people say? Were they bothered? Did they even notice?

In my experiences I have learned most from the mistakes I have made. When things don't turn out how you expected it's the universe giving you feedback and an opportunity to change what you are doing, to learn.

So go ahead and give yourself permission to make loads of mistakes and enjoy the process! Have fun!

All the best,

Noelyne

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Feeling exhausted?

This time of year I find my energy levels are easily drained. My batteries run out quickly and need frequent recharging! I was up at 6am and on the go every moment of the day from driving to the venue, setting up and then delivering training until 4pm, which means I am constantly on display (for want of a word)and a 2 hour drive in the dark, sleet and freezing conditions. It was wonderful to get back to the sanctuary of my home although I knew it would be as much as I could do to have a shower. I flopped on the settee, put my feet up and listened to the radio - Chris Evans with Paul McCartney and George Michael as special guests Oh and The Muppets. Great new record - The Muppets sing Bohemian Rhapsody - Go Animal!

I'm lying there wondering how on earth I can find the energy to make evening meal, wishing the Fish and Chip angel would suddenly appear with crispy Cod and chips. I didn't even have the energy to go out and get some. 30 mins later I am feeling much better and manage to rustle up an awesome (Sarah Kennedy doesn't like that word!) omelette and Jacket Potato. Delicious! Suitably refreshed I set about doing a few things like filling the washing machine and emptying dishwasher...it's a hard life - lol!

A pleasant chat catching up with my brother's news and the evening has been saved. It's amazing (another no word according to Sarah - Hah!)what you can achieve when you listen to your body. Off to get an early night to further recharge those batteries, will read my book a little....sweet dreams.

Until tomorrow,

All the best,

Noelyne
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P.P.S. Bee pollen came in handy again driving home too, as a very good friend said 'You must be buzzing!' LOL

How to overcome loneliness.

Feeling lonely can be one of the most negative and destructive emotions. You feel isolated and that you are the only person in the world who is alone. Every you know seems to have family and friends except you. Loneliness just measn that you need a connection with people.

The solution

• Realise that you can reach out and make connections immediately.
• Identify what kind of connection you need – intimate, friendship, or someone to listen or laugh with.
• Then look for ways of achieving the connection. What are you prepared to do to make it the way you want?


So you can see how your emotions are a very valuable resource.

Noelyne

Overloaded and overwhelmed?

If you feel have ever felt overloaded or overwhelmed – you need to re-evaluate what is important to you in this situation.

The solution
• Prioritise – decide what is the most important thing for you to focus on and make a list in order of priority.

• Each day take action to complete the tasks. Steven Covey ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ gives excellent tips on how to prioritise effectively.

All the best and remember to enjoy the process,

If you're not having fun then stop doing whatever you are doing!

Noelyne

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