Feeling inadequate?

Inadequacy means that you don’t presently have a skill necessary for the task at hand. You need more information, understanding, strategies, tools and confidence.

The solution
• Ask yourself ‘Is this really appropriate for you to feel inadequate in this situation?
• If so, then you need to find a way to do something better than before
• Perhaps get some coaching!

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All the best,

Noelyne

Do you ever have feelings of guilt?

Guilt means that you have violated one of your own standards. I talked about rules and standards when dealing with How to Overcome Anger a few days ago. When you do something that breaks your own rules it causes you to choose to feel guilt and/or anger with yourself.

The solution
• Acknowledge that you have violated one of your own standards
• Absolutely commit yourself to making sure this doesn’t happen again

Whatever it is that you have done it is over and in the past, you can't change it and there is absolutely no point in allowing yourself to continue to feel bad about it. You are just continuing to allow whatever you did in the past to affect you now in the present. So get over it and move on.

I can be quite tough!
Noelyne

Overcome your Disappointment

Disappointment means that you are feeling let down or that you are going to miss out on something for ever. A goal you have had is probably not going to happen. Maybe someone has not lived up to your expectations.

This is a much more destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly

The solution
• What can you learn from this situation?
• Set a new goal that is even more inspiring
• Maybe you are judging too soon
• It may not be over and you may just need to be patient

If you are constantly feeling disappointed then you would benefit from some one to one coaching.

Know that you can handle whatever happens.

Noelyne

Feeling frustrated?

Overcome your frustration by recognising that this emotion is telling you that you could be doing better than you currently are. This is another easy one. You are probably nearly where you want to be but something keeps eluding you.

The solution
• Realise that frustration is good as it tells you that you need to change your approach, find another way of learning or achieving your goal. This is great for personal growth.

Remember to enjoy getting curious and overcoming the negative emotions.

All the best,

Noelyne

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Overcome your anger

If you have ever felt angry then you know what effect it can have on your body and the people around you. When you feel Anger I guarantee that a rule or standard that you hold in your life has been violated by someone else.

Every person has their own set of rules based on their upbringing, beliefs, religion, education and life experiences. Where two people do not know each others rules then it can lead to conflict.

The solution
• You could have misinterpreted the situation and perhaps the person does not know about your standards.
• Remember that even if the person did violate one of your standards, your ‘rules’ are not necessarily right.
• Ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this situation?’ How can I communicate my rule so that they don’t do it again?

If you want to know more about overcoming your anger then e-mail me for more infromation.

All the best,

Noelyne

Feeling Hurt?

Another emotion that can be quite debilitating is Hurt. When you feel hurt it normally means that you have an expectation that has not been met. Often other people are involved.

Anthony Robbins in his book ‘Awaken the Giant Within’ states that ‘Hurt often dominates human relationships. Feelings of hurt are usually generated by a sense of loss. You normally feel hurt as a result of having an expectation of someone else that has not been met.’

The solution
• Ask yourself ‘Is this person really trying to hurt me? Maybe they don’t realise the impact of their actions on your life.
• Re-evaluate the situation and ask yourself ‘Am I judging too harshly?’
• A third solution could be to communicate your feeling of loss to the person. For example: - ‘The other day when x-y-z happened, I misinterpreted that to mean that you didn’t care, and I have a sense of loss. Can you clarify for me what really happened?’

I have tried this and it works. I found that the hurt disappears in a matter of moments.

So overcome feeling hurt and take action now. Life is too short to be held back by emotions that may be as a result of a misunderstanding.

Noelyne

How to overcome your fear and anxiety

The next of the emotions that can keep us stuck is Fear, Low level concern, Anxiety, Worry.  I'm not talking about panic attacks, high level fears and phobias.  These fears are much more deep rooted and often as a result of some trauma earlier in your life.  I deal with using Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques. The fear and anxiety I am referring to in this post are those daily worries, niggles or sixth sense telling you that all is not quite right for you.  They can keep you stuck if you allow them to and can grow out of all proportion if you don't act to resolve the feelings.  Luckily these fears, low level concerns and anxiety can be turned into a positive resource and can be easily overcome.  These fears, concerns, worries are telling you that something is going to happen soon that you need to prepare for. 

The solution

• Review what you are feeling fearful about and evaluate what you must do to prepare yourself.
• Figure out what actions you need to take to deal with the situation in the best possible way.

Remember to use your negative emotions and turn them into positives. They are your body's way of alerting you to something you need to do. Don't let the negatives stop you from moving forward. You can overcome them.

Get curious!

Noelyne

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