Hello,
I've recently been on holiday with my 79 year old Mum, who like most elderly Mum's never want to be a bother or cause any fuss... So why is it so stressful and why so I struggle to control my emotions when I am with her. I find myself getting annoyed or irritated by her behaviour. When she tries her best not to make a fuss it actually increases my frustration. I do my best not to show my feelings as I don't want to upset her and end up feeling sad myself. It's been the same every time I spend a full week with her.
Thankfully for me I was reading a book by Joyce Meyer called 'Never Give Up'. I was attracted to this book as I've had a tendency to start things and then not finish them. It was an ideal book for me and I learned a considerable amount about the importance of persistence and continuing to take action when you totally believe in what you are doing.
In one of the chapters it referred to the situation I have just described about how I feel when I am with my Mum. The advice given is that when you feel a negative emotion towards someone you need to look within yourself for the reason for the emotion. I cannot start to tell you how powerful this is. It made me break the habit I had got into of blaming my Mum for her behaviour. Instead I looked at why I was irritated with the way she behaves and I can tell you that I uncovered some of my own fears and beliefs about myself, my own behaviour. It also made me face up to how I still feel about significant life events that happened when I was a child. I was quite amazed! I thought I had dealt with all that stuff particularly am I am a personal development expert! From then on the moment I started to feel a negative emotion towards my Mum I asked myself the question "What's causing this within me?" Not only did that thought stop the negative emotion it freed me up to be happy.
And of course, it all had an impact on my Mum. Behaviour breeds behaviour. My behaviour had changed which affected her.
To end a long story... we had a very enjoyable holiday!
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. She wants to go to Crete and Turkey next year now!!
Thursday, 4 July 2013
Thursday, 20 June 2013
How To Overcome Life's Challenges - e-book RELEASE!
At last... I've released the book many of you have been asking me to write for a long time. It's available as an e-book for immediate download here or you can order a printed version, details below.
The book contains proven steps that will build your confidence and self-esteem and free you up to get the life that you want. You will discover what's been holding you back and how to stop being afraid and finally achieve your dreams. You will be able to overcome your fears and anxiety, feel motivated to take action, smash those negative thoughts and finally have a positive outlook on life. Enjoy good relationships, feel happy and good about yourself and be even more successful.
Yes it is all possible. You'll also get to know a little of my story too and how I transformed my life from a shy, self-conscious civil servant to running my own international business and a few of the challenges that I overcame along the way.
You can have a copy now for only £8.95 by clicking the button below.
The book contains proven steps that will build your confidence and self-esteem and free you up to get the life that you want. You will discover what's been holding you back and how to stop being afraid and finally achieve your dreams. You will be able to overcome your fears and anxiety, feel motivated to take action, smash those negative thoughts and finally have a positive outlook on life. Enjoy good relationships, feel happy and good about yourself and be even more successful.
Yes it is all possible. You'll also get to know a little of my story too and how I transformed my life from a shy, self-conscious civil servant to running my own international business and a few of the challenges that I overcame along the way.
You can have a copy now for only £8.95 by clicking the button below.
Thursday, 6 June 2013
Breaking news!
A Message from Noelyne...
At last I have finally got around to writing my first book which is titled 'How to Overcome Life's Challenges'. Sorry about the title, it just seemed to sum up my experiences in life. Anyway, the book takes you through a step by step mini-course on how to overcome your fears and have the life of your dreams.
It will show you how to be more confident in any situation and gives you a blueprint for success... a kind of day by day plan of how to turn your life around completely and live the life of your dreams.
Imagine feeling totally confident now, feeling completely happy and at ease with yourself, moving to your dream house, getting that job you have always wanted, enjoying fantastic relationships... The book will show you how to achieve all of this.
And it's going to be available very soon. I'll be letting you know shortly when it's due to be published and how you can get hold of a copy.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Remember to get a copy of my Free Report which gives you a preview of what's in the book.
At last I have finally got around to writing my first book which is titled 'How to Overcome Life's Challenges'. Sorry about the title, it just seemed to sum up my experiences in life. Anyway, the book takes you through a step by step mini-course on how to overcome your fears and have the life of your dreams.
It will show you how to be more confident in any situation and gives you a blueprint for success... a kind of day by day plan of how to turn your life around completely and live the life of your dreams.
Imagine feeling totally confident now, feeling completely happy and at ease with yourself, moving to your dream house, getting that job you have always wanted, enjoying fantastic relationships... The book will show you how to achieve all of this.
And it's going to be available very soon. I'll be letting you know shortly when it's due to be published and how you can get hold of a copy.
Enjoy the process of life,
Noelyne
P.S. Remember to get a copy of my Free Report which gives you a preview of what's in the book.
Sunday, 19 May 2013
4 Secrets To Leadership Success
Keynote speaker Chris Hyman, CEO SERCO.
Passion
Compassion
Empathy
Courage
In his speech at the HTB Leadership conference Chris Hyman, survivor of 7/11, and mega successful CEO of SERCO described his 4 key areas for success in leadership.
Friday, 17 May 2013
Leadership Tips From A Mega Successful Church Leader
I recently attended an international seminar for leaders where one of the key speakers was Bill Hybels, Founder and Senior Pastor at Willow Creek Church Illinois. Here are the key messages that I took away:
1. Vision casting creates passion
Sometimes it's not easy to get people to buy into the vision so you need to flip it and build a case of why we can't stay here.
2. Leaders build teams to achieve the vision
The 5 C's of what leaders need to look for when recruiting.
Character
Competence
Chemistry
Culture of organisation and fit of individual
Calling to the purpose of the organisation keeps you in the game
It's about moving from Good to better to great to fantastic.
Stay faithful.
3. Do regular reviews of your staff. Ask yourself...
Who could you not afford to lose? Consider the people at the bottom of the list and ask yourself what's causing them to be there? Is it them? Is it you? Are they being sufficiently challenged? Are the over or under challenged?
4. Challenge.
High achievers kept under challenged will
leave. Seriously over challenged will go sick.
Appropriately challenged will plod along so the best performance is achieved when people are just above
appropriately challenged.
5. Self leadership
When you are on empty it's your job to replenish yourself.
Patience, vision, humour and fun.
Wednesday, 15 May 2013
Leaderships Tips For Team Success
I've recently attended the HTB Leadership conference at the Albert Hall where I was fortunate to listen to many inspirational speakers from the business world. One such speaker was Patrick Lencioni, President of The Table Group, a Management Consulting firm based in America. He spoke about his most recent book the 5 Dysfunctions of a team and I have captured the main points here for you:
The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team
1. Absence of Trust
- vulnerability based
trust
- 1 member of team cannot be vulnerable it will spread like
a virus. The leader needs to go first!
2. Fear of Conflict
Make sure your team are not holding back.
Failing to disagree is dooming that relationship to failure.
3. Lack of commitment
Waiting for Consensus not good. Takes too long. Disagree
then commit. Rarely get natural consensus.
leaders Need to break the tie. If people don't disagree they don't
commit they passively agree then go back to their departments and say 'I'm not
sure if that will work'
4. Avoidance of Accountability
Where this is no commitment people
will not hold each other accountable. Where there is no accountability for behaviours there is a dysfunctional team. Behavioural accountability - leaders don't do this! They do
hold them accountable for the numbers.
If you love someone hold them accountable.
5. In attention to results - focus on collective results
Friday, 3 May 2013
The Seeds Of Success Start With Clarity
A Message from Noelyne...
When you are clear about what you want in life then you will be successful. Clarity is the starting point. Get clear about what you want to do, be or have, believe that you can achieve it with all your heart and then take action to move you towards achievement of your goal.
Without clarity you can still take action however, it will not be focused on what you want so you could end up anywhere. You could end up where you definitely do not want to be. For example, if you have no idea what you want to be or do when you leave school you will probably end up in a job doing something you didn't necessarily want to do. You end up drifting with no real purpose. Some of you may be thinking, where's the problem there? And for many people that is perfectly acceptable.
However, if you have a desire to make a difference and to have the best life possible it start with getting clear about who you are, who you want to be, what you want to do and have. When you follow your heart your life becomes delicious. Life is much easier when you are happy in your own skin and what you choose to be and do. When you are happy you are naturally attractive and so attract more of what you want. It's that simple!
And always, always be grateful for who you are and where you are and what you have, no matter what happens develop and attitude of gratitude.
Enjoy the process of life
Noelyne
When you are clear about what you want in life then you will be successful. Clarity is the starting point. Get clear about what you want to do, be or have, believe that you can achieve it with all your heart and then take action to move you towards achievement of your goal.
Without clarity you can still take action however, it will not be focused on what you want so you could end up anywhere. You could end up where you definitely do not want to be. For example, if you have no idea what you want to be or do when you leave school you will probably end up in a job doing something you didn't necessarily want to do. You end up drifting with no real purpose. Some of you may be thinking, where's the problem there? And for many people that is perfectly acceptable.
However, if you have a desire to make a difference and to have the best life possible it start with getting clear about who you are, who you want to be, what you want to do and have. When you follow your heart your life becomes delicious. Life is much easier when you are happy in your own skin and what you choose to be and do. When you are happy you are naturally attractive and so attract more of what you want. It's that simple!
And always, always be grateful for who you are and where you are and what you have, no matter what happens develop and attitude of gratitude.
Enjoy the process of life
Noelyne
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