The build up to the Christmas holidays is often a stressful and emotional time for many reasons. From planning how or who to spend the holidays with to managing budgets and meeting ever increasing demands from children and family.
It can often be a time when you give yourself permission to allow any past hurts and resentments to surface and be expressed. You remember loved ones who are no longer with you and recall fond memories of times when perhaps you feel things were better. It can all add up to a volatile, tiring and negative experience mixed in with the hope of the Christmas season and a brand New year to come.
Knowing how to handle all this and not make decisions that you will regret can be challenging. How often have you heard of marriages and relationships ending during the Christmas period? Spending time with the family can cause emotions to run high particularly after much richer food and if there is alcohol involved.
It's important to allow yourself to be upset and feel those emotions. When you are watching a film that triggers an emotion, let it out. Have a good cry or express your irritation or annoyance. Then let it go. Let go of the past so that it no longer affects you in the present. Holding on to negative emotions is not resourceful; for you or the people in your life. Allow yourself the gift of a new beginning be it a new start in an existing relationship or to end a relationship that is no longer serving your needs. If you want to know more about your values and needs in a relationship I cover this in detail in my membership club.
If not now when will you? If not you then who?
The start of a New Year is a good time to plan for the year ahead. Make sure you are in a relaxed and resourceful state when you plan what sort of lifestyle you want.
Enjoy the process!
Noelyne
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