Just wanted to share with you how much fun I am having right here in my study. Have discovered the power of social networking and a whole host of amazing people sharing their knowledge and skills about using the internet.I've dabbled with computers for many years, even got into a little binary programming in the early days with my first basic computer, whose name escapes me right now. It seemed easier to keep up back then. Now it's just phenomenal what is available. I've been blogging on a number of sites and absolutely love to search for information. However, I was beginning to spend too much time moving from site to site, remembering passwords etc etc. Since learning about internet marketing from people on Face book and Web Mums I am really finding out how to manage my time much more effectively. Have just downloaded a new browser called FLOCK. My stepson will have fun with that name I am sure! Anyway check it out, it's easy to use and will save time. Off to learn some more now.
Have a spectacular day,Noelynewww.noelyne.com
I've been working with emotions recently both within my training role as a Management development trainer and with private clients. I'm encouraging people to get in touch with their feelings as an excellent resource for identifying what decision you need to take now. So instead of allowing your negativity to get you down use it as a positive resource and get curious about the reason for feeling that wayHow are you feeling right now? If you are tense and struggling with what you are doing then I give you permission to stop now. Take a deep breath, stand up and go and do something different for a while. Take a walk in the fresh air, make a cup of tea, go for a swim, phone a friend whatever you need to do to take your mind off the activity that was causing you to choose to feel tense. That’s right you have a choice!If you are struggling with whatever it is that you are doing then the chances are that you are focusing on something that you don’t want to do or perhaps are not ready to take action on yet. Far better to go and do something else and then refocus on the original activity when you feel better prepared. It may be that you decide not to follow that path after all.Of course if it’s frustration that you are feeling then maybe you are on the verge of a breakthrough it’s just you haven’t quite found or mastered the next step yet.Whatever it is that you are doing now make sure you are relaxed and enjoying it. Your life will be much happier as a result, you will look good (a smile on your face is so much more attractive that a frown) and feel great too.Expect excitement and adventure every day, Noelynewww.noelyne.com
From a very young age I have had my head in a book. I love to read and have a thirst for knowledge. Over the past 12 years I have read numerous self-development books. You can imagine my delight when looking through a pile of my partners books I found The Celestine Prophecy, Anthony Robbins - Awaken the Giant Within and Dr Wayne Dyer’s - Your Erroneous zones. The first two had been on my list for a while and they both more than lived up to expectation. I had not heard of Dr. Dyer before however, since connecting with more and more people on FB I keep noticing his name so this morning at breakfast I did a very quick précis and then read the final chapter. Dr Dyer includes the following quote from the Reader’s Digest
Nothing on earth renders happiness less approachable than trying to find it. Historian Will Durant described how he looked for happiness in knowledge, and found disillusionment. He then sought happiness in travel and found weariness; in wealth and found discord and worry. He looked for happiness in his writing and was only fatigued. One day he saw a woman waiting in a tiny car with a sleeping child in her arms. A man descended from a train and came over and gently kissed the woman and then the baby, very softly so as not to awaken him. The family drove off and left Durant with a stunning realization of the real nature of happiness. He relaxed and discovered that ‘every normal function of life holds some delight’.
I like to say something positive to the boys as they set off for school so this morning it was ‘Enjoy each moment of today’. They are not quite on the same wavelength as me yet however, they are starting to realise that they have a choice.
Enjoy each moment!
Noelyne
Where has the year gone? Every year seems to get faster. What causes that? There’s always so much to do and rarely enough time, particularly in the build up to Christmas. I suspect you are all saying similar things.
This year with moving house twice in the last 3 months I decided to plan early and buy presents and cards well in advance. All went very well until this week when I realised that I still haven’t delivered all my cards and presents to friends living locally. I know what I will be doing this weekend! And there’s the food shopping to do.
December is also a time when I reflect on the year. My achievements, successes and things that didn’t go so well. This year has been phenomenal and so I will most definitely be celebrating over the festive season. It’s so good to take time out and reward yourself for your achievements however, big or small. So that’s what I am going to encourage you to do. Take time out for yourself and celebrate your journey in life so far no matter what is happening right now. You will feel so much better.
Yesterday I was out for lunch with some very dear friends. Towards the end of the meal my mobile rang and it was a call from one of the organisations that I am working with so I decided to take the call. As it happens the call was not that urgent and could have waited however, it affected the rest of the meal. In that moment I had broken the spell and magic of enjoying the company of my friends. I was no longer there for them and I know that one of my friends was not impressed. I cannot change what happened as it is over. However, I can make sure that I give my full attention to whoever I decide to spend time with and not be distracted. My friends will forgive me as they love me.
My message to you is to ‘Enjoy the present moment’. ‘The past is history, the future a mystery and the present a gift’ So enjoy it! Enjoy spending time with family and friends, be the happiest person around and see how you affect their lives too.
Have an absolutely awesome time,
With love from Noelyne
Trust
How do you know it’s time to trust someone? What causes you to choose to stop trusting someone?
Trust lies at the heart of a strong relationship. When trust is lost we feel betrayed, angry and taken for granted.
But what is trust? It’s a belief we have that we can ‘place out trust’ in someone. We have enough evidence to allow that to happen and so we start to open up and confide in that person. There is an element of uncertainty and risk involved as whoever you are trusting may not always live up to the faith you are putting in them.Many parents of teenagers will identify with choosing to trust our child to be able to spend the weekend in the house on their own without throwing a wild party. You may feel somewhat anxious as you drive away from the house and have a strong urge to ring up and "check how things are going". There is a risk involved, they may let you down.Do you see trust as something that must be earned or negotiated? You may trust other adults according to how much you know of their character, attitudes and behaviour.
People have different meanings for trust. Our ability to trust may be affected by our upbringing and past experiences too. It is very easy within a marriage to assume you view trust in the same way as your partner, but assumptions can be misleading and lead to disappointment and hurt when things go wrong.
Most people want to place the responsibility for trust in a relationship on someone else. They base their trust on how someone acts towards them. I’ve discovered that trust in a relationship doesn't start with someone else. It starts with you and how willing you are to open up and allow the other person in. If you're having trust issues in a relationship, examine your own thoughts, feelings and issues from the past that have yet to be healed first before looking outward to blame someone else. I also suggest taking a step forward into love instead of fear every chance you get.Talk about your doubtsDon’t let the fact that your previous relationship broke down be the reason why a future relationship breaks down. If you are having trust issues in a new friendship or relationship, talk these through with your new friend or partner. Explain to them why you are having the trust issues you are and explain your feelings to them. You may be surprised and find that your new friend or partner actually understands what you are going through!It is going to be impossible to move on with your life after a divorce if you cannot trust anyone again. Trust is an essential element to any healthy relationship. Trust means you know you care for someone, and that they care for you. So make sure you have a healthy loving relationship in the future by learning to trust again.Call me now to find out how coaching can move you forward and enable you to trust again,08456 430 184Noelynewww.noelyne.com
I'm not convinced that you would want to be happy every single minute of the day as life is about embracing the ups and the downs. Sadness plays just a much a part in life as happiness. The low times help you appreciate the highs even more. Experiencing different emotions often means that you have a varied, interesting and full life. It's learning to control those emotions and learn from them that is the not so easy thing to do. Luckily once you are aware that you can control your emotions then you can start to do something about it. It's easier in certain situations for example, at work we have codes of conduct or standards that are expected of us. Competencies that guide your behaviour and if you step over the boundary then you are given feedback by your line manager. You learn to control the irritated or angry feelings you have towards certain colleagues and deal with them in a considered and thoughtful manner.Out side of the professional situations described above for example in your personal lives you often let those emotions take over and lose rational thinking and behaviour. You choose to allow the negativity to rule your life. You are often not happy with your relationships and focus on the negatives, you are often dissatisfied with what you have wanting more and wishing things were different. Some people feel sad because the things they want and are working towards are not happening fast enough. You want it all now and feel dissatisfied because you haven't got everything you want. Yet guess what? If you had everything you want right now you would then want something else.So be happy with what you have here and now. Take action to get the things or life that you dream of and let go of the outcome and time line. So long as you are taking action then things will happen however, not always as quickly or in the way that you expected. Just be happy whenevr you can and enjoy the moment.If you want to know more about being happy and changing your thoughts then give me a call anytime.Noelynewww.noelyne.com
How to have a wonderful stress free festive season?
The Christmas holidays are fast approaching and for many this is a wonderful happy special time of year. For others it can bring all sorts of problems and concerns.
stress through trying to organise work and home life and all the preparations,
sadness when remembering loved ones no longer with us,
relationship breakdowns or remembering the pain of a separation that happened at this time of year,
ill health – how many of you keep going and then the moment you finish work you get a nasty cold or flu,
financial pressures through trying to provide the best Christmas/holiday ever for your family.
Ringing any bells for you? (Ok I couldn’t resist that one.)
My Top Ten Tips for a stress free festive holiday.
Start planning early, particularly if your natural preference is to leave things until the last minute!
Work out a budget and stick to it.
Delegate tasks if you can.
Do 10 minutes minimum meditation daily. It will help clear your mind of clutter and clarify thoughts.
Take at least 1 hour out a week for you time – relax, do something you really enjoy.
Remember to fit in at least 3 x 20 minutes sessions of exercise – a power walk to the shops or work will do you the world of good.
Eat a well balanced diet – plenty of fresh fruit and veg!
Visualise the sort of holiday you would like to have over the festive season. What will you be doing, saying, hearing and feeling?
Thoughts become things so choose the good ones – manage your internal state and emotions. If you would like to know more about techniques to do this then give me a call.
Set yourself some realistic goals however, let go of the outcome - If things don’t quite turn out how you expect don’t beat yourself up. Know that you did your best however, some things are out of our control. In fact the only thing you can control is you, your thoughts and your reaction to what happens.
Additional tip.
Have fun!
