Fear of Losing Control

A Message from Noelyne...

Recently, I was considering the Fear of Losing Control and how that impacts on your life.  I was reflecting on aspects of my life and in particular my relationships with significant partners, ex-husband and current partner.  It struck me that I enjoy being in control of the finances, the home, the food, the garden...in fact most things.

I've not always been in total control as when I was married it was a joint decision making process and in fact my ex made a lot of the major decisions and generally took control and solved problems.  I was quite dependant on him.  When the marriage fell apart I had huge fears about being on my own and managing tasks and making decisions and in particular being financially secure.  It was a scary time.  However, I overcome the fears and came through with flying colours.  Although a side effect is that I like to be in control.  I really enjoy makng my own decisions and not having to consult anyone else.  It's much easier.  When you are faced with having to make joint decisions again it can make you fearful.  That fear of losing control arises.  But what does that mean?  What is that you are fearful of losing control of?

The problem is that making decisions on your own when you are in a relationship is not a good thing.  If you make major decisions without consulting the other person they are highly likely to not be best pleased and can be quite hurt or angry.  Imagine if the other person did that to you....would you like it?  So why would you expect the other person to be OK with it? It can lead to a breakdown in the relationship or even the end of a relationship.

Have you experienced anything like this?  Do you have a fear of losing control and how does that affect your behaviour in relationships?  This can also surface in relationships with colleagues and friends.

Do let me know your thoughts,

Enjoy the process of life,

Noelyne Jones

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