Fear of Success!

This week I want to share with you a truly thought provoking verse I came across whilst o delivering a Leadership training event and it has inspired me ever since.


“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson
Used by Nelson Mandela in his inaugural speech

So what can we take from this?

One of the key challenges as human beings is we're not great at standing at the top of the tallest building and shouting about our achievements, what we do/have done and our future potential.
Most people think the biggest fear is the fear of failure…actually for many the fear of success is far greater. Whether they realise this at a conscious level is another thing!

I have feared success in the past and even now I still feel uncomfortable telling others about what I have achieved and what I am going to achieve for fear of what the person might think. There is an element of believing that I do not deserve all this success and that I won’t be able to handle it! These fears developed during my childhood when I was brought up to believe that sharing my successes with others was boasting about myself which was not a good thing and could result in things being taken away. The first step to overcoming this fear of success is to recognise that it exists within you. The next is to look at how this fear or belief is limiting you now.

So a couple of thought provoking questions:

 Are you playing small?
 Are you truly realising your REAL potential?
 If not what might you be doing to sabotage your own success?
 Are there actions that you’ve been putting off that that could positively accelerate your success?

Boldness has genius…go do it now! And remember the Universe will only give you what you can handle.

Here’s to a fun, fearless life!

Success

Bring on free internet access in all Hotels. During my stay in Estonia I was able to access the internet free of charge any time of day and unlimited access. The Estonians are way ahead of us with 97% of the population using the internet for business and banking etc. The government wants to make the city of Tallin a wi-fi area so that everyone can access the internet anywhere. People can sit in the park and browse.

It certainly makes keeping in touch with my clients so much easier and it only takes a few minutes each day to check e-mails and respond. Marvellous. A success all round as was my visit to the beautiful city of Tallin. Highly recommended and if you go make sure to buy a Tallin card which gives you access to all sorts of tourist attractions and gives a huge saving. Another success.

In fact my success diary is filling up fast which is such a good feeling. Do you keep a success diary? I recommend that too. Just take a few minutes each day or week to reflect on what went well and record it. Then celebrate your success no matter how big or small. Get used to that feeling of happiness and joy so that you can create more of that good feeling in your life at anytime. As a general rule we rarely take time out to stop and look at what we have achieved and how far we have progressed. And we are even less likely to celebrate. Do you remember the last time you had a celebration? Go back there now and remember what you saw, heard and felt? Oh yes doesn’t that feel fantastic! So the next time you have a success remember to celebrate and recreate that feeling again and again so that it becomes quite natural to feel good. In fact feeling good is natural, anything else is a sign of resistance to what comes naturally.

Here’s to feeling good!

Noelyne
www.noelyne.com

Spinning plates

Hello,
Since coming back from holiday I have been playing catch up with all aspects of my life, friends, family, business, garden, house. Whilst on holiday I totally chilled out and shut myself off from everything except the people I was with. I truly lived in the moment without a care in the world. Wonderful!

So where do spinning plates fit in? Well, I seem to have many things on the go at the same time and it feels as though I am constantly running from one to the other to keep the plates spinning. It's a long time since I have seen someone actually do that on stage however, that's what it feels like. Whilst on holiday of course a few of the plates have dropped and cracked - not smashed just cracked as they could be put back together. I started to tell myself that I should have checked my phone and e-mails whilst on holiday. However, when I sat down and thought about it those cracked plates are ones that I did not want to keep going long term anyway. Yes I can put some work in to retrieve the situation, make a few phone calls etc. but actually I feel quite relieved. It's helped me to focus on the plates that I really really want to take to the next level. There are less of them now which means I can put quality time and energy into making them gold plated!

Many of the women that I speak to seem to have 101 things on the go at the same time and often run around like headless chickens with no clear sense of direction. Perhaps if we take time out and look at the things in our life that we hold onto however, don't really need and probably don't really enjoy. Then ask yourself 'What would happen if I didn't do that anymore?'. It might just free up some time to do the things you really love and enjoy and get lots of satisfaction from. The things that will take you to the next level, wherever that might be.

I'm off to Estonia next week with three other fabulous forty+ women. Will I check my e-mails and phone? I'll let you know how I get on.

Enjoy your week,

Noelyne

www.noelyne.com

Last minute. holiday

Hello there,

Last year after two weeks camping in Yorkshire we decided to branch out and go to France on holiday. Then earlier this year the weather forecast was for a glorious hot summer in Britain, she types as the thunder rumbles in the distance and the rain hits the window! So a joint decision with my partner was that we would have a holiday enjoying the delights of North Wales, Snowdon and the sandy beaches of the Cambrian coast. As spectacular as Chamonix in France and at a third of the cost!

The Friday night before our holiday arrives and it's still raining, there are floods across the Midlands, people are stranded in cars.......you all know the rest. So something eventually sinks in (no pun intended) that maybe we need to change our holiday destination. So bright and early on Saturday I start searching for a sunny holiday....one by one destinations were eliminated.....too hot, no availability, hurricane season, too expensive. I'm keeping my cool literally as the temp is about 12 degrees and not panicking. I trust that we will find the right holiday for us.

The following morning we are up bright and early to drive down to Dover to catch the ferry. It took me about one hour in the end to book the ferry, a hotel overnight in Calais, the campsite, holiday and car insurance and get my Euros, pack my bag and make sure my passport was up to date. It just goes to show what can be achieved in a short space of time once I was clear on what I wanted.

Three weeks later I am back from a wonderful camping holiday in the Ardenne region of France. We all enjoyed it and even ventured into Belgium for a couple of nights on the way home. The boys loved the experience of exploring new countries and wanted to carry on into Luxembourg.....

So we achieved our dream of holidaying in France this year after all. I recommend that you plan a little earlier than the day before however, it all worked out fantastically.

Where would we be without the internet...Have a great week.

Noelyne

www.noelyne.com

The weather!

I suppose being British I just had to do one blog about the glorious British weather.......

Feeling quite sad right now which I know will pass however, guess who decided to take advantage of the fact that there was a glorious hot Summer predicted earlier this year.....yes me and me dearest who have planned to go camping in North Wales for our Summer holiday.

The whole idea was to take the boys Kayaking, Abseiling, climb Snowdon, White water rafting - a lifelong ambition of mine, somewhere with beautiful scenery, mountains and beaches close by.....so North Wales fits the bill. Needless to say the forescast of more torrential downpours is what is causing me to choose to feel quite depressed. On the bright side at least there will be plenty of water for the white water rafting! I just wonder if we will need a kayak for the campsite?

Ok I think my NLP techniques need to be implemented on myself fairly quickly to get myself back to a positive state so that I can give as much as possible to the meeting I have planned with my fellow coaches from the Develop Your Child foundation. It's a celebration of our success and I want it to be awesome....

Have a fantastic weekend whatever the weather and keep smiling!

Noelyne

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How good are you at creating effective relationships?

It strikes me that fundamental to our success in life are the relationships that we enjoy (or not) from the moment we enter this world. These relationships shape our personalities, the meanings we create, the states we get into, our physiology, the decisions we make and the results we achieve…….our life is influenced so much by the people we have in our life and choose to stay with or the people we choose to attract.

Building effective relationships affects us at home with our nearest and dearest, our friends, our colleagues and in business. Without good solid relationships built on trust then we are not as effective as we could be and rarely reach our true potential.

I’m just wondering why this was not covered as a subject at school? At least I don’t remember lessons in how to interact with others on a social and emotional level……do you?

It’s probably the reason for a growing need for coaching skills to be introduced to children and young people. How many young people do you know who would benefit from coaching to breakthrough the communication barrier and achieve even better relationships?

Perhaps it needs to be included in the school curriculum? What do you think? I’d be interested to hear the views of parents.

Until next time…….my time management is definitely improving!

Noelyne

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Time Management

So here we are half way through the year, longest day and midsummer already celebrated……….people flooded out and stranded, four people sadly have lost their lives. It really brings it home to me about the importance of making the most of every moment as even with goal setting and planning you can not be sure what is around the corner.

Some time ago I vowed that whatever I choose to do I would make sure that I have fun at the same time. So far so good as I truly enjoy the things I choose to do, although I still appreciate that there will be times of sadness particularly the loss of loved ones.

I am not so sure that I have cracked this Time Management mullarkey either……I’m particularly good at telling other people how to manage time (I run courses in Leadership which include Time Management tips) and yet here we are with only *** shopping days until Christmas. Sorry I absolutely detest it when someone says that to me and I certainly have not got time to calculate how many days!!

So as my blogs this week are a little like buses…..none for a couple of weeks and then two turn up at once, I’ve decided I need to focus on improving my time management and start making even better use of every moment so that when I am sat having that coffee and an inspiring thought pops into my mind I’ll capture it there and then for inclusion in my blog. A friend of mine always has a notepad next to the ironing board for just that purpose…….I just find it much more inspiring to have a glass of wine next to my iron.

Here’s to much more effective management and enjoyment of time.

Noelyne

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